To cope with difficult family members, you can set boundaries, communicate your needs, practice empathy, and focus on what you can control. In some situations, it may be best to cut ties.Coping with difficult relatives involves creating clear boundaries, expressing your needs using "I" statements, empathizing with the relative, and avoiding sensitive topics. You can set boundaries by limiting time spent together or refusing to discuss certain topics. For example, tell a partner "I'm not comfortable spending a lot of time around your dad. I can spend time at your parents' house for 2 hours, but not any longer than that". Instead of accusations, use "I" statements to focus on your own thoughts and feelings. Instead of saying, "You need to stop prying into my personal life," try, "I feel a bit judged when assumptions are made about my personal life. I would love to have conversations where we can both feel comfortable and relaxed". Empathy involves understanding the other person's perspective.To cope, prioritize your needs by having a snack, taking a walk, or having a peaceful moment alone. Focus on the family member’s positive traits to make the time together more palatable. Try not to take hurtful comments to heart, recognizing that mean comments may come from misunderstanding or ignorance. Relaxation strategies such as yoga, progressive muscle relaxation, deep breathing, or visualizing a peaceful scenario can help.Conflict resolution strategies can also be useful. Focus on finding peaceful and respectful ways to resolve conflict, such as agreeing to disagree. Choose your battles wisely, try to understand the other person’s emotions to find opportunities for empathy, and be willing to let go of minor conflicts.Choosing your role in the family dynamic is important. Decide what roles you are and are not willing to play and make that clear. Focus on what you can control, such as how much time you spend around someone. Increasing your emotional intelligence, including managing your emotions, being self-aware and socially aware, and connecting with others, can also assist you. Accept your family member for who they are, rather than trying to change them.In some cases,cutting ties may be necessary, especially if a relative is unwilling to improve or is abusive. You can cut ties passively or directly, and it is okay to mourn the lost relationship. Lean on people who understand what you’re experiencing, such as therapists or trustworthy friends. Keep your options open if the relative seems to change in the future, but reconciliation is a journey.