How to Deal with Negative People - Toyin Popoola

Today I will be talking on how to respond to negative people...

I am almost certain that everyone watching this video has a friend or used to have a friend who every time you call them or they call you, you know you’re in for a half-hour rant about everything that is difficult, miserable and or unfair.. sounds familiar right?

As strange as it may sound, someone else may also feel the same about you...

Dealing with negative people is such a difficult task, because the negative person may be your child, your partner, your friend or even your superior at work.

You will agree with me that in some instance you’re stuck! You will have to find your way around them by ducking and diving and rearranging yourself in order to accommodate them… You can either accept them, avoid them or ignore them depending on who the negative person is perceived to be.

So, how can we avoid, respond, relate and interact with negative or difficult people. People who seem chronically critical, belligerent, indignant, angry, or just plain rude.

When someone repeatedly drains everyone around them, how do you maintain a sense of compassion without getting sucked into their doom?

And how do you act in a way that doesn’t reinforce their negativity?

My first suggestion is to:

Maintain a distance:

You should not let anyone walk through your mind with their dirty feet!

Joel Osteen said: “You don’t hang out with negative people and expect to live a positive life! “. Avoid cynical and negative people like the plague because they are killers of potential. They feed on your reaction and if they see you being affected by what they do or say, they’ll keep doing it. So, you must ignore them.

You may need to change your group, even your friends if you notice they are negative.

I love the way c expressed it in the book of Psalm chapter one: I read

Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers. But his delight is in the law of the LORD, and in his law he meditates day and night…

(2) Only Quality People (OQP):

Who brings out the best in you, loves you truly, and values you? You need to surround yourself with such people. They respect and believe in your dream.

Sometimes you need critics to achieve and reach your goals but make sure that their criticism is constructive. Charlie Tremendous Jones said — 'You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.

(3) Let go of grudges:

Grudges stem from unforgiveness while unforgiveness breeds hurt. Acknowledge the hurt and decide to forgive because unforgiveness is like drinking poison yourself and waiting for the other person to die.

Keep your cool and character intact: The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life becomes.

(4) Drop Negative Attitudes about Yourself or Others:

Negative attitude is contagious. It’s like a flat tyre and if you don’t change it, you can’t go anywhere.

Since negativity is a learned response, it can be taught even to an innocent child and since it is learned, then it can be unlearned.

A negative attitude is almost a guarantee that life will be more difficult and less fulfilling than it should be.

People can get you so upset that they bring out the worst in you.

(5) What you think about:

You need to fill yourself with positive words, inspirational messages and find time to read and study the bible.