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How To Disarm the Money Land Mines in Your Relationship
This week marks the 85th episode of The Couples Expert Podcast!
This week Stuart speaks with his guest Emily Bouchard, MSSW. Emily works with couples and families about money issues. She helps families understand where the triggers about money really stem from and teaches them how to have difficult conversations without money landmines blowing them up!
Stuart and Emily discuss why money issues can affect couples so dramatically and can leave them feeling disconnected. Many people are uneducated about how to talk about money and 70% of families fall apart when money gets transferred. It happens when people come into large sums, or when money is redistributed, a business is sold, or when a blended family is involved and there are issues about ownership of shared property. There can be anger and resentment about expectations from family members about what is fair and right. Things can get very complicated the more layers of family that are added. It’s a challenge to make it fair where there may not be equal distribution or equal ownership within the family members. The more money you have, the more complex the issues within the family can be.
These are a few of the emotional explosive landmines that catch you off guard. Emily likens these to an invisible electronic barrier fence. You don’t know it’s there until you run into it. In her work she teaches people how to turn the voltage down. It can still sting, but it won’t kill or blow you up.
Protections come up, then you think “don’t go there,” So you avoid the conversation altogether until BOOM - you found the landmine! Stuart explains how emotions under the surface can explode when they’ve been between you and keeping you from connecting with the people you love.
Stuart talks about the triggers that come up when money conflicts arise and how understanding what’s needed to have these conversations empowers couples to navigate these difficult issues. From his emotional attachment work, Stuart shares the underlying dynamics about trust and need and why money problems can tear you apart as a couple.
Click here to read the complete Show Notes
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By Stuart Fensterheim LCSW
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This week marks the 85th episode of The Couples Expert Podcast!
This week Stuart speaks with his guest Emily Bouchard, MSSW. Emily works with couples and families about money issues. She helps families understand where the triggers about money really stem from and teaches them how to have difficult conversations without money landmines blowing them up!
Stuart and Emily discuss why money issues can affect couples so dramatically and can leave them feeling disconnected. Many people are uneducated about how to talk about money and 70% of families fall apart when money gets transferred. It happens when people come into large sums, or when money is redistributed, a business is sold, or when a blended family is involved and there are issues about ownership of shared property. There can be anger and resentment about expectations from family members about what is fair and right. Things can get very complicated the more layers of family that are added. It’s a challenge to make it fair where there may not be equal distribution or equal ownership within the family members. The more money you have, the more complex the issues within the family can be.
These are a few of the emotional explosive landmines that catch you off guard. Emily likens these to an invisible electronic barrier fence. You don’t know it’s there until you run into it. In her work she teaches people how to turn the voltage down. It can still sting, but it won’t kill or blow you up.
Protections come up, then you think “don’t go there,” So you avoid the conversation altogether until BOOM - you found the landmine! Stuart explains how emotions under the surface can explode when they’ve been between you and keeping you from connecting with the people you love.
Stuart talks about the triggers that come up when money conflicts arise and how understanding what’s needed to have these conversations empowers couples to navigate these difficult issues. From his emotional attachment work, Stuart shares the underlying dynamics about trust and need and why money problems can tear you apart as a couple.
Click here to read the complete Show Notes