Stress-Less Physician

How to Drop Your Manual


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We all have a life expectations manual. It’s the unwritten one that dictates how we feel life should be. Our manual outlines internal expectations for how others should think, how they should behave, and what they should understand. We often don’t even realize our manual exists but it’s there. 

The problem with this manual is that it is often unrealistic. The truth is, adults have the ability and freedom to behave however they choose. I’m not saying that just because people can choose that any and all behavior is acceptable. Not at all. But outwardly harmful or not, all behavior is inwardly harmful to us when we deny the reality that people aren’t always going to act how we wish. The empowering reverse of this is to grasp hold of the control we do have, which is over ourselves, not over others. Let’s talk about all this and how to drop your manual. 

“No matter what people do or how they act, or what they say, we don’t have to give others the power to determine how we feel. Ever. I think this is amazing. I think this is a superpower.” – Dr. Sara Dill

What You’ll Learn
  • Realize your manual exists
  • Use your superpower
  • Abandon trying to control others
  • Change your focus
  • Clarify proper expectations, in appropriate situations
  • Execute the step-by-step to drop your manual
  • Identify your manual
  • Pinpoint your suffering
  • Let yourself off the hook
  • Turn around your rules

Contact Info and Recommended Resources

Get the How to Drop Your Manual worksheet: https://www.saradill.com/pl/2147607703

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Stress-Less PhysicianBy Sara Dill