Wives, I want you to know how to encourage your husband to lead spiritually. Read or listen to this material from Your Marriage God’s Way to learn godly words of encouragement for your husband.

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Wives, I want you to know how to encourage your husband to lead spiritually. Read this for godly words of encouragement for your husband.

Table of ContentsWives, Encourage Your Husband to Lead by Removing Yourself from LeadingWives, Encourage Your Husband to Lead by Putting Yourself Behind HimWives, Encourage Your Husband to Lead by Embracing His Leadership StyleYou Would Encounter Other Frustrations If You Could Change Your HusbandWives, Encourage Your Husband to Lead by Recognizing His Heart for God Is More Important Than Leadership StyleWives, Encourage Your Husband to Lead by Making His Spiritual Leadership EasierFive Practical Ways to Make Your Husband's Spiritual Leadership EasierFirst, Thank Your Husband When He Takes the Family to ChurchSecond, Encourage Your Husband When He Prays or Reads Scripture with YouThird, Support Your Husband with the ChildrenFourth, Avoid Needless DebateFifth, Avoid Needless ComparisonsWives, Encourage Your Husband to Lead by Being His Biggest SupporterDon't Be This Wife!Be This Wife!

Most people who have heard me preach know that wrestling is my favorite sport, and I like to say it’s God’s favorite sport, too. He wrestled with Jacob (Genesis 32:24-26). He warns that we will “wrestle…against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places” (Ephesians 6:12). He wrestles with sinners’ hearts.

Most wrestlers will tell you basketball is wrestling’s biggest opponent because the two seasons coincide. One thing basketball has going for it is the movie Hoosiers. Even as a wrestling fan, I must admit that it’s a great movie.

In the movie, Gene Hackman plays Normal Dale, the new head coach. Nobody knows him, and he’s disliked because he does things differently than the previous coach. Dennis Hopper plays Shooter Flatch, who knows much about basketball, but everyone has written him off because he’s also the town drunk. Coach Dale upsets people even more when he makes Shooter the assistant coach. When Shooter shows up at the first game, he’s clean-cut, sober, and wearing a nice suit but looks terrified.

Coach Dale wants to give Shooter a chance to prove to the townspeople— and, more importantly, to himself—that he is valuable, has potential, and can coach. The problem is there’s one thing between Shooter and that opportunity: Coach Dale. Like any business, organization, or marriage, a basketball team can only have one person leading.

With one of the most essential games on the line, Coach Dale intentionally gets himself kicked out. As he’s about to leave the gymnasium, he walks over to Shooter, hands him the playbook, and says, “It’s up to you now.” The camera zooms in on Shooter’s face, revealing his fear. The team is looking to him to lead them during this crucial moment, but they understandably doubt his ability. Some of the players lower their heads and look at the floor. Shooter didn’t want to be in this position, but Coach Dale removed himself from being in charge, and Shooter had no choice but to lead. He pulled himself together and came up with the game-winning play.

Why am I sharing this? This illustrates a key point: When wives do as Coach Dale did and remove themselves from leading, they put their husbands in a position where they must lead. Some husbands don’t lead because their wives are already doing so.

Wives, Encourage Your Husband to Lead by Removing Yourself from Leading

Other husbands don’t lead because they believe their wives will fight whatever decision they make. As a result, they don’t even bother to lead, or they don’t take their responsibility seriously. Some wives say they want their husbands to lead, but they mean,