“If you understand, things are just as they are; if you do not understand, things are just as they are.”

— Zen Proverb

This new video explores how to end or greatly reduce the drama in your life and relationships.

In essence, the key to ending drama in life and relationships is to end it within yourself. Cease to be at war with reality. See no enemies. Discover spaciousness.

“It takes two to tango”: In any relationship, if you become non-reactive and cease to add fuel to the fire, the fire of drama ceases. A person cannot fight with air, with space.

Now, this can be a delicate dance because setting boundaries is also important sometimes—but it’s possible to learn to set boundaries in a clear, firm, non-dramatic way. If a person in your life habitually disrespects or abuses you, I recommend distancing yourself from that person, or cutting them out altogether.

Ending drama within yourself does not mean you can never take a stand in life, but when you do, it comes from a different place—rooted not in war-consciousness but in a transcendent-and-all-inclusive Love that foundationally sees no being as an enemy. You increasingly come from universal compassion.

In this video, I go into more depth on this and also touch upon broader subjects such as our civilizational shadows and the path of spiritual awakening as an antidote.

Words from the video:

“There are parts of ourselves and parts of our minds that often feed upon drama and try to use drama as a way of perpetuating their existence. These wounded parts can really hijack the mind when they get triggered and create a dark feedback loop — the mind creates over-dramatized narratives, and those narratives feed the wounded parts that want the drama. Seeing this dynamic is subtle and difficult, but recognizing it is the first step toward freedom.”

“When we get hooked into drama and mental stories, we narrow down into that to the exclusion of everything else. It’s so helpful to go outside, put your bare feet on the earth, look at a tree, look at the sky, and reconnect to a sense of spaciousness. These are equally valid emanations of your present experience — and reconnecting to them helps dissolve the fixation on the story.”

“When we’re not in deep drama, practicing in daily life to access this portal of nowness — dropping stories, opinions, beliefs, identities — makes it much easier to access that portal when something triggers us. The more we learn to abide as pure freshness now, beyond name and identity, the more the drama loses its grip. This is cumulative; it shifts the center of gravity of your being.”

“Any emotion is okay. No emotion is wrong — even the heavy, fiery, swampy, or coagulated ones. They are just another texture on the kaleidoscope, another color on the color wheel. When we see emotions this way, instead of as evidence of catastrophe or conflict, drama naturally dissolves because nothing needs to be resisted.”

“All of the external squabbling, tribal warfare, and information warfare out there feels less foundational when we keep returning to nowness. And paradoxically, this makes us far more available and spacious — more able to truly resolve knots in our relationships. Drama ends in the world to the degree that it ends within ourselves; we become a beacon of another way of existing.”

Dive into the video for much more, if you feel called.

Love & Hugs,Jordan

If you feel called deeper, consider Sanctuary or our Brotherhood.

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