Is your marriage marked by nagging and criticism, or are you actively helping your spouse become who they were created to be? In this episode, Ben and Megan explore the spiritual gift of exhortation and why it’s a vital tool for building a multi-generational family legacy.They contrast the common traps of "nitpicking" with the biblical practice of speaking truth in love—reminding each other of their true identity in Christ even when they fall short.In this episode, we cover:-Defining Exhortation: Understanding how it differs from simple encouragement and why it requires deep prayer and thoughtfulness.-The "Magnifying Glass" of Marriage: Why our spouses see our flaws more clearly than anyone else and how to handle that intimacy with grace.-Family of Origin Dynamics: How our upbringings shape the way we give and receive feedback (and how to break negative cycles).5 Practical Tips for Exhorting Your Spouse:1) Practice Noticing the Good: Shifting your focus from what's annoying you to who your spouse truly is.2) Remember Hebrews 12:15: Seeing to it that no one misses out on the grace of God and preventing "bitter roots."3) The 3-to-1 Ratio: Building a "bank" of encouragement so that corrections are received with trust rather than defensiveness.4) Point to True Identity: Using the "Tim Keller approach" to see your spouse in their future glory.5) Let Grace Fill Your Heart: Remembering that nobody—including yourself—is perfect.Get the Resource: This conversation is based on the Family Field Guide, a monthly resource packed with articles, recipes, and legacy-building tools. You can subscribe to get it in your inbox by visiting the link in our Instagram bio: @wearelegacymakers.