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You've watched a colleague get tapped for the senior meeting, the stretch project, the introduction you didn't know was happening. And your first thought wasn't resentment, it was confusion. They know how hard you work. They know what you're capable of. So why aren't they picking you?

Because people don't live in your head, and if you haven't told them where you want to go, they're not guessing.

In this episode, I'm talking about what it actually takes to get access to the opportunities, rooms, and relationships that will move your career forward. It's not about doing more. It's about signaling differently.

In this episode, I'll cover:

• Why the people around you are picking whoever raised their hand, not whoever worked the hardest
• How to get clear on what you actually want so you can start framing it to the right people
• The small actions that get you seen differently without waiting for someone to notice you on their own

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You keep delivering. You keep saying yes to more responsibility. And somewhere in the back of your mind, you tell yourself it's just not the right time to ask for the title, the raise, the recognition you've been waiting on.

But on the other side of that silence, your boss isn't waiting with you. They're watching you perform and assuming you're fine.

In this episode, I'll cover:

• Why silence signals satisfaction, even when you're anything but
• The 90-day window that determines whether your yes becomes leverage or assumption
• Three moves to take in the next 72 hours so you stop leaving it on the table

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Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 

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You see a colleague get the stretch assignment. You think, "Good for them." And then, quietly, "Why not me?"

That moment is where most people stop. But that question, "Why not me?" is exactly where a negotiator starts. Research shows 46% of managers don't even know what their people want next. That's not on them. That's on you knowing it first.

Getting what you want at work starts long before any conversation. It starts with being clear enough to say it out loud.

In this episode, I'll cover:

• Identify what you actually want beyond just the next title
• Ask the right people for perspective, including those outside your direct chain
• Frame what you want in a way that makes it easy for others to say yes

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Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 

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Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:
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Most of us hear "office politics" and immediately distance ourselves. It sounds manipulative, underhanded, like something people with questionable integrity do to get ahead. So we opt out. We stay professional, stay quiet, keep our heads down.

But opting out is still a choice. And while you're making it, someone else is in the room getting credit for your idea, volunteering to send out your work, and positioning himself for the opportunity you didn't raise your hand for.

In this episode, I'll cover:

• Why refusing to engage with office politics is still a position, and what it costs you
• The three-part formula that separates real influence from manipulation
• How to make your value visible without becoming someone you're not

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You've been thinking about a conversation for days, maybe longer, and when you finally walk in, something unexpected happens. The other person says something that catches you off guard, the energy shifts, and suddenly everything you planned feels out of reach. You end up agreeing to something you didn't mean to, and you spend the drive home wondering how it went sideways so fast.

That moment isn't about confidence. It's about preparation, and specifically what happens when the other person in that room did more of it than you did.

In this episode, I'll cover:

• Why "being good on the fly" is a myth that puts even experienced people at a serious disadvantage
• The three things to write down before any high-stakes conversation so your past self can anchor you when emotions take over
• How your emotions can be used as a tactic against you, and why preparation is the thing that takes that off the table

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Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 

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You're ready for the client presentation, the meeting with your boss, the room full of people counting on you to speak. You rehearsed, you have a plan, and the moment finally comes. But the energy is tight, something feels off, and instead of pausing to read it, you push through anyway. The call goes hollow. And you know it the second it's over.

That gap between what you prepared for and what the room actually needed? That's where situational awareness lives. And it's the one thing that separates the people who rise in an organization from the ones who stay stuck wondering what went wrong.

In this episode, I'll cover:

• Recognize when you're running your script instead of reading the room
• Prepare for the meeting you might get, not just the one you planned for
• Build a feedback habit so it stops feeling like a threat when it finds you

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Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 

📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:
Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:
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Seventy percent of people experience imposter syndrome at some point, and it hits hardest in high achievers. The more capable you are, the wider the gap feels between how others see you and how you see yourself. And the sneaky part is it rarely looks like doubt. It looks like stepping back, staying quiet, giving someone else the floor and calling it professional.

That quiet step backward has a cost. In this episode, I'm getting specific about where it actually shows up in leadership and what starts to shift when you learn to catch it.

In this episode, I'll cover:

• Recognize how imposter syndrome actually shows up in high-stakes moments
• Shift your focus off self-doubt and onto the contribution the room expects from you
• Use three specific moves to start building the muscle that pushes doubt out of the way

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Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 

📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:
Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:
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Your calendar is full. You're keeping up, moving fast, and honestly proud of what you're getting done. Then you find out there's a major cross-functional initiative in the works and your name wasn't on the list.

It's not a confidence problem. It's not a performance problem. But something is quietly happening to the way you're thinking, and it's costing you visibility at exactly the moment it matters most.

In this episode, I'll cover:

• Recognize the three signs that your mindset has shifted into execution mode without you noticing
• Reclaim strategic thinking even when your schedule feels completely packed
• Take one specific action this week to start showing up where the opportunities actually are

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Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 

📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:
Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:
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Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training

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You picked the day. You thought through exactly what you were going to say. And then your boss pushed the meeting and you felt, if you're honest, a little relieved. So you reset the date. And then something else came up. And then again. And before you know it, you've talked yourself out of it so many times that the ask never happens.

That's not strategy. It's directly connected to getting what you want, and every time you find a reason to wait, you're giving yourself a no before anyone else even has the chance to say yes.

In this episode, I'll cover:

• How to recognize when you're protecting yourself instead of being strategic
• Why there is no perfect timing and what to do instead
• How to create accountability that actually closes the gap between intention and action

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Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 

📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:
Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:
www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation

Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training

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Think about the last time you had something to say in a meeting and didn't say it. Maybe you were waiting for the right moment. Maybe someone else was talking and you thought you'd jump in after. And then the conversation shifted, and the moment passed, and someone else said something close enough to your idea that everyone moved on without you.

That's not just a missed moment. It's directly connected to getting what you want in your career. Every time you stay silent, you're leaving other people to define what you bring to the table. And the story they tell about you is usually not the one you'd choose.

In this episode, I'll cover:

• Why silence isn't neutral and what people actually think when you don't speak up
• How to shift your perspective so you stop defending your silence
• Practical ways to get your voice in the room, even when you don't feel ready

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Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever. 

📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:
Get my Book:  The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:
www.susietomenchok.com/our-book--the-art-of-negotiation

Learn more about booking me for a workshop: www.susietomenchok.com/workshops-and-training

_____________________

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💕Susie
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