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How To Gray Rock Through a Narcissistic Smear Campaign...with Extra Butter
Originally Recorded 1/28/22
Tony defines and gives examples of two common terms used in the context of narcissism, "gray rocking" and "smear campaign," and he explains how even with words to explain the situation that many people find themselves in, the process has only just begun. Thanks to the Narcissist Family Files for their glossary of narcissistic terms https://narcissistfamilyfiles.com/2017/09/19/narcissism-101-a-glossary-of-terms-for-understanding-the-madness/
With the continuing "sheltering" rules spreading across the country, PLEASE do not think you can't continue or begin therapy now. http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch can put you quickly in touch with licensed mental health professionals who can meet through text, email, or videoconference often as soon as 24-48 hours. And if you use the link http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch, you will receive 10% off your first month of services. Please make your mental health a priority, http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch offers affordable counseling, and they even have sliding scale options if your budget is tight.
You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.
Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=v95myQ
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[00:00:07] Hey, everybody, welcome to waking up to narcissism, this is episode twenty one and I am your host, Tony Overbay. I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist and host of the Virtual Couch podcast, where this week we talked about context and I feel like that is such an important concept. Understanding that we all have our own unique experiences that are, again, just unique to us. First time we're going through a situation as ourselves, so we bring all of our own things to that situation context. So it helps us have a better context and we're trying to understand what others are going through. And I really do believe this is applicable to this very podcast waking up the narcissism because we are probably or are you or probably not given credit for where you are coming from in those relationships with people with narcissistic traits or tendencies or in dealing with the emotionally immature that so often I think that they are projecting their experiences onto you in order to in hopes that you will somehow externally validate them, or that they will take a one up position on you. But I'm getting ahead of myself. We're going to talk about that a little bit later, but I wanted to start today by talking about some terms, terms that are applicable when talking about narcissism. And first, a quick story that is one of the things that got me thinking about this many, many years ago. I used to teach a class every morning to a group of youth before they ran off to school, and I would get on a roll kind of like what I like to do on this podcast or the virtual couch and just start to feel pretty passionate about a subject.
[00:01:33] And I would say, Oh man, let me get down off my soapbox. And I said, often a lot, actually. And so at one point, I just looked out to the class and these are all seniors in high school, and I just saw a sense of that. They were lost when I would say that, and I said, Hey, does anybody know what I mean when I say I'm going to get down off my soapbox? And I thought for sure there would be a few of them that would. And it was crickets. It was just absolute crickets. No one knew what that phrase meant. And that's when I realized that not only was I getting old, but so were my references. So if you happen to not be familiar with that phrase, it did just look it up on the internet.
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By Tony Overbay LMFTOriginally Recorded 1/28/22
Tony defines and gives examples of two common terms used in the context of narcissism, "gray rocking" and "smear campaign," and he explains how even with words to explain the situation that many people find themselves in, the process has only just begun. Thanks to the Narcissist Family Files for their glossary of narcissistic terms https://narcissistfamilyfiles.com/2017/09/19/narcissism-101-a-glossary-of-terms-for-understanding-the-madness/
With the continuing "sheltering" rules spreading across the country, PLEASE do not think you can't continue or begin therapy now. http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch can put you quickly in touch with licensed mental health professionals who can meet through text, email, or videoconference often as soon as 24-48 hours. And if you use the link http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch, you will receive 10% off your first month of services. Please make your mental health a priority, http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch offers affordable counseling, and they even have sliding scale options if your budget is tight.
You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.
Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=v95myQ
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[00:00:07] Hey, everybody, welcome to waking up to narcissism, this is episode twenty one and I am your host, Tony Overbay. I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist and host of the Virtual Couch podcast, where this week we talked about context and I feel like that is such an important concept. Understanding that we all have our own unique experiences that are, again, just unique to us. First time we're going through a situation as ourselves, so we bring all of our own things to that situation context. So it helps us have a better context and we're trying to understand what others are going through. And I really do believe this is applicable to this very podcast waking up the narcissism because we are probably or are you or probably not given credit for where you are coming from in those relationships with people with narcissistic traits or tendencies or in dealing with the emotionally immature that so often I think that they are projecting their experiences onto you in order to in hopes that you will somehow externally validate them, or that they will take a one up position on you. But I'm getting ahead of myself. We're going to talk about that a little bit later, but I wanted to start today by talking about some terms, terms that are applicable when talking about narcissism. And first, a quick story that is one of the things that got me thinking about this many, many years ago. I used to teach a class every morning to a group of youth before they ran off to school, and I would get on a roll kind of like what I like to do on this podcast or the virtual couch and just start to feel pretty passionate about a subject.
[00:01:33] And I would say, Oh man, let me get down off my soapbox. And I said, often a lot, actually. And so at one point, I just looked out to the class and these are all seniors in high school, and I just saw a sense of that. They were lost when I would say that, and I said, Hey, does anybody know what I mean when I say I'm going to get down off my soapbox? And I thought for sure there would be a few of them that would. And it was crickets. It was just absolute crickets. No one knew what that phrase meant. And that's when I realized that not only was I getting old, but so were my references. So if you happen to not be familiar with that phrase, it did just look it up on the internet.