Sometimes the best way to help ourselves is to help others. Helping your partner be their best selves makes every relationship better. The rub is, this requires each of us to take more personal responsibility for our behavior.

An Article on understanding how love languages work.https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2019/10/how-the-five-love-languages-gets-misinterpreted/600283/

Tips for helping your partner be their best selves.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-practice/201911/5-ways-help-your-partner-be-their-best-self