What if changing your life begins by changing what you're paying attention to?
In this powerful episode of How to Human, Angie sits down with mindset coach, entrepreneur, author, and NLP practitioner Kristi Dear to explore how our thoughts, words, beliefs, and daily focus can shape the way we experience our lives.
But Kristi wasn't always "the mindset girl."
At 23, she was a new mom experiencing postpartum depression, living paycheck to paycheck, feeling alone, resentful, and stuck in survival mode. Her husband was working two jobs, money was tight, and Kristi felt like life had handed her the short end of the stick.
Then her mom gave her a book that introduced her to one simple idea:
"As a man thinketh, so is he."
At first, the concept irritated her.
She wasn't choosing to struggle. She didn't want life to feel this hard.
But it sparked a question that would ultimately change the trajectory of her life:
What would happen if I changed what I focused on?
Kristi began paying attention to the way she spoke about herself and her circumstances. Instead of constantly focusing on what was missing, she began intentionally looking for what she could appreciate.
And little by little, things began to change.
Together, Angie and Kristi explore:
✨ Why what we repeatedly focus on becomes so powerful
✨ How gratitude can shift us out of scarcity and survival mode
✨ The connection between our language, beliefs, and everyday experience
✨ How to recognize and reframe negative self-talk
✨ Why you don't have to jump from "I'm failing" to "I'm amazing" overnight
✨ How small shifts—from zero to one, then one to two—create lasting change
✨ Why setbacks don't have to mean failure
✨ How today's challenge could become tomorrow's comeback story
✨ The difference between setting an intention and trying to control the outcome
✨ Why surrender and trust are essential parts of creating the life you desire
Kristi also shares a beautifully practical approach to reframing the voice in your head.
Instead of forcing yourself to believe an affirmation that feels completely impossible, start with something that simply feels a little better.
"I'm failing" can become:
"I'm learning and growing."
"I'm not enough" can become:
"Every day, I'm becoming kinder to myself."
Because transformation doesn't always happen through one giant leap.
Sometimes it happens one thought, one word, one decision, and one moment of gratitude at a time.
And when life doesn't unfold exactly the way you planned?
Maybe the delay has purpose.
Maybe the setback is teaching you something.
Maybe you're still becoming the person who can receive—and hold—what you're asking for.
Your setback may just be the beginning of your comeback story.
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