"Open" is the default setting of our hearts. When our hearts are closed, we lack perspective. We're more likely to make poor decisions. But the real danger is allowing our hearts to stay shut down. Guests: Dr. Greg & Erin Smalley Show notes:  Listen in to last week's episode on  how to fight with your spouse and why your relationship NEEDS conflict. Fight Your Way To a Better Marriage by Greg and Erin Smalley*  The Important Difference Between Conflict and Fighting  (Juli's blog)  *This is an affiliate link. AI may earn referral fees from qualifying purchases.

#156: How To Keep Your Heart Open When You Don't Feel Emotionally Safe

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Why are we all so lonely? Why is it that at a time when we are more connected than ever, many of us find ourselves feeling lonely and isolated? Jeff Kemp and Juli explore what’s making us feel lonely, how to bring more vulnerability and honesty into our relationships, and why understanding our identities is pivotal when it comes to cultivating deep, long-lasting friendships.   Guest: Jeff Kemp   Jeff’s Website: jeffkempteam.com   Book: Receive: The Way of Jesus for Men by Jeff Kemp Book: Level 5 Friendship Playbook (download through the pop up on his website)   Register for Reclaim: Surrendered Sexuality Find out more about Reclaim: Surrendered Sexuality   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

#517 How to Beat Loneliness and Cultivate Deeper Friendships

Married sexuality has its challenges, internal and external, and it can be tempting to quit having sex or step outside the marriage, but there are ways to address some of the issues and overcome them as a couple.   Christian sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma joins Juli to talk about:   How to manage mismatched libidos   Why foreplay matters   What to do if you experience symptoms of Erectile Dysfunction   Why sex is important in marriage   How to re-enter holy sexuality and eroticism after abstaining without it becoming sin     Guest: Dr. Michael Sytsma    Website: Building Intimate Marriages Instagram: @buildingintimatemarriages   Explore more resources on Sex in Marriage    Sign up for Second Cup!   Learn more about becoming a member.     Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

#516 Don't Skip Foreplay! (and Other Advice from a Christian Sex Therapist)

What do your attractions say about you? Do they say anything about you? Is attraction always about sex, or are there more layers to it than we tend to think? Hannah Nitz joins Juli for a conversation all about attraction and desire.   Co-host: Hannah Nitz   Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com Hannah’s Instagram: @hannahnitz   Blog:  3 Subconscious Beliefs You May Hold About Living With Same-Sex Attraction   Partner with AI!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

#515 Is Attraction Sinful? Unpacking Attachment, Safety, Love and Desire

For most marriages, the most challenging years are the earliest ones. Marital problems can come in any number of forms, but sometimes the most difficult to navigate are those you don’t see coming. Few know this better than Chris and Stephanie Teague, the duo behind Out of the Dust, who experienced divorce suddenly after only three and a half years of marriage. The couple join Juli to discuss exactly what happened before their marriage fell apart, and what God did in both of them to put it back together.   Guests: Out of the Dust (Chris and Stephanie Teague)     Website: outofthedustmusic.com Instagram: @outofthedustmusic Check out the new album from Out of the Dust, releasing April 26th!     Q&A;: Where do I begin healing? Explore more resources on healing     Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

#514 How Deconstruction and Divorce Rocked a Young Couple's Life

Gender dysphoria is becoming more and more common, and parents with kids who are struggling are at a loss at what to do. Should they affirm their kids? Should they approve hormone blockers?  In this week’s episode of Java with Juli, Juli is joined by Dr. Miriam Grossman, a child psychiatrist and author who has testified before congress about some of the hidden dangers behind transgender activism.    Guest: Dr. Miriam Grossman, MD    Book: "Lost in Trans Nation: A Child Psychiatrist's Guide Out of the Madness" by Miriam Grossman M.D. Book: “You’re Teaching my Child What?!” by Miriam Grossman M.D. Java with Juli:  #507 What You Need To Know About The Gender Conversation Java with Juli:  #508 What Does Healthy Masculinity Actually Look Like?   Check out more resources about sex and culture!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

#156: How To Keep Your Heart Open When You Don't Feel Emotionally Safe

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