David Brooks' book, "How to Know a Person," which is a deep dive into the art of seeing and being seen, ultimately arguing that the ability to truly understand another person comes from an empathetic and compassionate approach to life. Brooks emphasizes developing the skill of "illuminating" others through a gaze that is tender, generous, and receptive, which involves paying attention to their unique narratives, internal models of reality, and life tasks. He also highlights the role of communication, both conversational and empathetic, in building meaningful connections and fostering understanding.