Love isn’t just a noun. It’s not just something that we have or don’t have. Love is also a verb. It’s a doing word. And the doing part of love, involves sacrifice. It involves sowing seeds that will result in an eternal harvest.

 

Planting Seeds Today

The farmer who expects a harvest without planting any seeds in the field. Now I’m no farmer; I’m not even a particularly good gardener, but I’m smart enough to know that unless the guy plants some seed, he’s not going to see any sort of harvest. In fact the only thing he’ll see is an empty field full of dust or mud depending on how much rain he has had.

He may be dejected, he may be upset that there’s no harvest. But what does he expect? He didn’t plant any seed. Pretty obvious – and yet all too often we live our lives on the very same, equally ridiculous basis. We wonder why our relationships aren’t producing a harvest.

We want our relationships to be rich and fruitful. We want them to be rewarding. We want relationships to be fun, as well as being strong and supportive. But all those desirable attributes of relationships don’t just happen. They take investment. They take effort. And if your relationships aren’t all that you want them to be – then maybe, just maybe it’s time to plant a seed.

This is the last message in a series that I’ve called, "Living a Life That Leaves a Lasting Legacy of Love". Bit of a mouthful but I guess you get the point. We all want to leave something good behind. We all want to leave a legacy of love in the lives of our children and their children. In the lives of our friends, even our work colleagues and our acquaintances.

I hope that when I’m gone, some of the many people who have, over the years listened to these radio programs, will have a much better life, because I did what I did. I hope my children carry forward values that I imparted to them – decency, integrity, kindness – and hand them on to their friends, and their children.

We all hope those sort of things and yet, all too often, we don’t build and nurture the sorts of relationships that allow that to happen. When you think about it, by and large, we only really allow ourselves to be influenced deep down inside by people we respect and trust. If we don’t trust them, why would we listen to them? If we don’t respect them, why would we take on any of their values or ideas? It makes sense.

I want you to think right now about a relationship that’s important to you, but it isn’t quite what you want it to be. This is a relationship that really, really matters … and yet, it’s not as healthy as it should be. Do you have that person’s face pictured in front of you at the moment?

Now, what do you do with that relationship?

One of the options is to run away. That’s a distinct possibility if the relationship is causing you pain, or if you’re just not quite up to working on it just at the moment. Sometimes, what we want to do is give up because the circumstances are against us. I’m pretty sure you know exactly what I’m talking about.

I want to share with you a story of a man who wanted to run away from something, from a situation – but instead he stayed amidst his difficult circumstances and did something very, very important. Have a listen to this story:

Now there was a famine in the land, besides the former famine that had occurred in the days of Abraham. And Isaac went to Gerar, to King Abimelech of the Philistines. The Lord appeared to Isaac and said, ‘Do not go down to Egypt; settle in the land that I shall show you. Reside in this land as an alien, and I will be with you, and will bless you; for to you and to your descendants I will give all these lands, and I will fulfil the oath that I swore to your father Abraham. I will make your offspring as numerous as the stars of heaven, and will give to your offspring all these lands; and all the nations of the earth shall gain blessing for themselves through your offspring, 5 because Abraham obeyed my voice and kept my charge, my commandments, my statutes, and my laws.’

So Isaac settled in Gerar. When the men of the place asked him about his wife, he said, ‘She is my sister’; for he was afraid to say, ‘My wife’, thinking, or else the men of the place might kill me for the sake of Rebekah, because she is attractive in appearance. When Isaac had been there a long time, King Abimelech of the Philistines looked out of a window and saw him fondling his wife Rebekah. So Abimelech called for Isaac, and said, ‘So she is your wife! Why then did you say, She is my sister?’ Isaac said to him, ‘Because I thought I might die because of her.’ Abimelech said, ‘What is this you have done to us? One of the people might easily have lain with your wife, and you would have brought guilt upon us.’ So Abimelech warned all the people, saying, ‘Whoever touches this man or his wife shall be put to death’.

Isaac sowed seed in that land, and in the same year he reaped a hundredfold. (Genesis 26:1–12)

I shared that story because it has three very important lessons in it about planting seeds. The first one is about the famine – adversity. Our natural reaction is inevitably to run away, to withdraw. When a relationship is going through a difficult time, one of the things that we so often want to do is to crawl into a cave and hide from it. Anything just to get away. The last thing we think of doing is being proactive and planting a seed. Think about that difficult relationship I asked you to picture earlier – what have your thoughts been about it over the past week. Have you been thinking about how you can get out of the situation, or how you can make it better? Which one have you been focusing on.

The second lesson is that Isaac, like his father Abraham, was far from perfect. He repeated his father’s mistake by lying about his wife and putting her into danger. Sometimes, we think we have to be perfect to sort things out. Well, it’s just not true – you and I will never be perfect and if we wait until we are to work on a relationship then we will never get around to it.

And the third lesson is the lesson about planting seed in the middle of the famine. The most counter intuitive thing you can possibly do. Isaac sowed seed in that land and in the same year reaped a hundredfold.

If you want to improve a difficult relationship then be prepared to plant seed in the middle of the famine, to plant a seed in the time of adversity, because chances are, you’ll reap a hundredfold in return. What does it look like to sow seed into a relationship?

Let’s imagine that your relationship is with a teenaged son – he’s causing you all sorts of grief and you just don’t know what to do. He listens to all this weird music; he’s into all these things that don’t make sense to you.

How do you sow seed into his life, to produce a hundredfold harvest? Well, it’s time to get interested in the stuff that he’s interested in. Ask to listen to some of his music, show interest, ask him who the band is, what they’re singing about, why he likes their music.

Maybe he’s into Facebook and you’re a complete novice – so ask him to show you how to setup an account and how to use it. Or maybe he’s done really well at something and its time for you to celebrate with him.

Entering into his space, listening to him, getting interested in the things that he’s interested in … and that’s just the beginning. Each one of those is like planting a seed. There’s a famine – the relationship is difficult. It’s a seed that says you care. It’s a seed that says I love you and I accept you just the way you are. And my friend this is a seed that will reap a harvest of a hundredfold; it’s a seed that will deliver a harvest.

If we want to leave behind a lasting legacy of love then we need to deal with those difficult relationships – proactively, positively, on the front foot. And that means, quite simply, being prepared to plant seeds into good soil – the sort of soil that’s ready to accept them – even during times of adversity. Especially during those difficult times.

Because that’s the sort of seed that’s going to deliver the sort of harvest that we’re looking for – a lasting legacy of love. Otherwise, we’re just like that crazy farmer who expected a harvest, without planting any seeds.

  Choosing Your Investments Wisely

Don’t worry, I’m going to give you just a little bit more time to consider your investment options. Over the last couple of weeks, we’ve been chatting about living the sort of life that is going to leave behind a lasting legacy of love. Because as our lives here on this earth draw to an inevitable conclusion, what we leave behind for those for whom we really care starts to matter more and more to us.

The important things start getting really important, the shorter that our time on this planet becomes. Problem is, it’s right now that we need to be doing the sorts of things, planting the sorts of seeds that are in fact going to leave behind that legacy of love – it’s no good leaving it until it’s too late.

So that’s what we are talking about in this series – what we need to do now, what seeds we need to plant now, who we need to invest in now – so that when our days on this earth draw to a close, we will really be at a place where we know that we’re leaving behind that legacy of love.

Now – how are you going on your investment questions? Still struggling with them? Well here they are again.

You have $100,000 to invest and three choices. Option 1 – put it in an interest bearing deposit with a bank. Option 2 – invest it in a blue chip stock that’s been performing handsomely over the past 3 years. Option 3 – invest it in a company that looks like it’s about to go under. Which one will you choose?

Now if we were talking about a real $100,000 the answer is actually pretty obvious. You’d pick between the bank account and the blue chip stock, depending on the degree to which you’re a risk taker. In fact, probably what I would do, is I’d split 40% each to the bank deposit and the blue chip stock, and I’d take 20% and buy a CFD or a Contract for Difference – that’s a stock market device which allows me to win if the stock of a company falls and put that on the struggling company.

But now let’s take that same investment question and look at the relationships that you’re going to invest in between now and when you die. Let’s draw a relationships analogy. Let’s say that with the time and effort that you have to invest in relationships you can choose between (1) A rock solid relationship, (2) A slightly higher risk relationship but one that offers greater returns, or (3) A struggling relationship that looks like it’s going to fail.

Now, which one of those are you going to invest in? I know what you’re thinking – right now, no doubt what’s going through your mind us – hang on a minute, the criteria I applied to the financial investment quiz don’t apply to relationships. And if that’s what you're thinking … you’re absolutely right.

Because if the struggling relationship that’s about to fail happens to be your marriage, or a relationship with a difficult child – there’s every chance that you’re torn – on the one hand, you want to throw everything into those relationships, on the other, you want to run a million miles from them because they’re tough and they’re hurting, they’re demanding and the toll on you is huge.

Some people make the decision to pull the plug on their marriage – and invest in a more pleasant relationship – an affair perhaps. Others will go down with the ship fighting to the last to save a marriage or a child. Because the main criterion in choosing the relationships we invest in is not the return, it’s how important those people are to us.

There is not a single person on this earth who is more important to me than my beautiful wife. I love her dearly – and if I had to, if she needed me to, I would abandon every other relationship, in order to save her.

So, why are we talking about this stuff? What’s the point of these tough questions – simply this. The sad truth is that a good percentage of people are so busy, or tired, or jaded that they don’t invest in any relationships. It’s like taking their $100,000 and stuffing it under the mattress.

Some people never make the decision to invest in any relationships, or when they do, they do it half heartedly, and they go for the return that they get out of it, rather than how important that person is, or should be, to them. If you and I want to leave behind a lasting legacy of love then we need to invest in relationships – we need to be deliberate about choosing the relationships we invest in – and like any investment portfolio, there is going to be a spread of different types, with different risk/return profiles.

A man whose marriage is struggling should throw all of his emotional energies into investing in his marriage. I remember hearing a man speak once, and he told of the last time he sat and talked with his grandfather in hospital before he passed away. He said Grandpa, "What’s the one thing that you're most proud of in your life?"

The Grandfather got a tear in his eye, and he answered, "Oh, that’s simple. Growing old with the mother of my children." That’s a powerful answer, wouldn’t you agree. To any man or woman whose marriage is struggling, I want to implore you to invest all that you have in that company that looks like it’s about to go under.

It may be that you save your marriage, it may be that you don’t, but I guarantee you that in the long run, whichever way it turns out, you won’t regret having given it all that you have.

I want to encourage you too, to invest in a handful of good friends. Some will give you more than you give them, others it will be the other way around. But friends are invaluable. Choose them wisely.

I also want to encourage you to invest in some people who have nothing to give you, but who desperately need the help and love and care and concern of someone like you.

And finally, please … please … invest in some young people, at home, at work, in your local community group and become their mentor. Hand on your wisdom and skills – as you pull alongside them and make them much greater and much better than they could ever have been without you. If you want to leave a legacy of love that lasts well beyond you, that ripples out from you and down through the generations, then what you need to do now, is get your relationships investment portfolio going.

Jesus is a great example of this. He had thousands – thousands of disciples who followed him around. Often when you read about the Disciples in the Gospel accounts, Matthew, Mark, Luke and John, the writer is talking about this wider group.

But Jesus, out of all of those, selected only 12. Mostly uneducated bumpkins. Fishermen. Tax collectors. Not the educational elite from Jerusalem, but the flotsam and jetsam from the slums of Galilee.

Simon (whom he named Peter); James son of Zebedee and John the brother of James; Andrew, Philip, Bartholomew, Matthew, Thomas, James son of Alphaeus, Thaddaeus, Simon the Cananaean, and Judas Iscariot, who betrayed him.

Those guys, when you read about them, so often got things wrong. They made a hash of things. They argued. Judas stole from the money that they all had. They tried to out do each other. He chose imperfect people and he built close relationships with them – and on their shoulders stands His Church around the world today.

From the investment that Jesus made in those 12, has grown a massive, global church. Jesus’ investment in his relationships with those men has left the most amazing legacy of love that has rippled down throughout the ages.

He was so often frustrated with them. They so often fell short of his expectations, and yet his 12-fold relationship investment portfolio has returned more than anyone could ever have imagined.

 

An Eternal Harvest

The whole point of sowing seeds is that eventually the yield a harvest. That’s what we know, and that’s precisely what Jesus taught in the parable of the sower. It may be quite a familiar parable to you, but have a listen to it again:

That same day Jesus went out of the house and sat beside the sea. Such great crowds gathered around him that he got into a boat and sat there, while the whole crowd stood on the beach. And he told them many things in parables, saying: Listen! A sower went out to sow. And as he sowed, some seeds fell on the path, and the birds came and ate them up. Other seeds fell on rocky ground, where they did not have much soil, and they sprang up quickly, since they had no depth of soil. But when the sun rose, they were scorched; and since they had no root, they withered away. Other seeds fell among thorns, and the thorns grew up and choked them. Other seeds fell on good soil and brought forth grain, some a hundredfold, some sixty, some thirty. Let anyone with ears listen! (John 13:1–9)

Now the part of that parable that you normally hear people focussing on is the bit about where the seeds fell and what that means. That’s fine. When the Disciples asked Jesus to explain this parable to them, that’s what He told them about.

But I particularly want to focus on the harvest bit at the end. And how the harvest is achieved. Here it is again. Verse 8:

Other seeds fell on good soil and brought forth grain, some a hundredfold, some sixty, some thirty.

But where did the harvest come from? It came from those people in whom the seed – which, as Jesus later explains to His disciples is the Word of God – fell in good soil and took root and brought forth the grain.

The return on one seed is massive – one seed in such a person yields a hundred, or maybe sixty or at the very least thirty more grains. How does that happen? Well, it’s as natural as a farmer sowing wheat. When the Word of God takes root in our hearts, it produces an abundant harvest.

Here’s what I all too often observe. Well meaning Christians who think that impacting people’s lives is all about working hard. Now to be sure, it involves hard work – and, as we’ve seen sacrifice a lot of the time. But that work and sacrifice flow out of us naturally, willingly, joyfully when they come through the Word of God, which, through the Holy Spirit, has taken root in our hearts.

Think about it, the farmer may well sow, weed, fertilise, but who gives the growth? Who turns that one seed into a wheat stalk into a 100 grains – not the farmer! God does. And so it is with us. The more of God’s Word that we get into us, the more He transforms our lives through His Spirit and his Word – the more grain we are going to produce. The more of a harvest we are going to see – because it’s His harvest, not ours.

And only God, by His Spirit and His Word, can produce an abundant, eternal harvest. Only God can win souls and transform lives through you. Your role, my role is to be close to Him, with the Word of God dwelling richly in us. Our role is to be one of His vessels, pure and clean and holy as we can be, ready to be about His business of winning souls and transforming lives. And the time for that to start is … not next week, or next month or next year my friend. The time for that to start is now. Here … and now. That’s exactly what Jesus said:

Do you not say, ‘There are yet four months, then comes the harvest’? Look, I tell you, lift up your eyes, and see that the fields are white for harvest. (John 4:35)

I want to encourage you today to live a life that is so close to Jesus, a life that is so transformed by Jesus, so full of His radically sacrificial, unconditional love. The sort of love that is prepared to lay down its life for others. This Jesus who laid down His life for you, my friend, if you put your trust in Him, if you put your life in His hands, he’s calling you to lay down your life for others.

God means to use you just the way you are, just the imperfect way you are, to sow the seeds that are going to make an eternal difference. With all my heart this is what I know; that’s what it means to live the sort of life that is going to leave a lasting legacy of love.

So as we come to the close of this series, let me ask you this. What are you going to do to change your life so that your life leaves a hundredfold harvest?

What are you going to do to change your life so that when you’re gone at least 100 people will have their lives touched and transformed by the love and the spirit and the word and grace and the mercy of God simply because they knew you? That’s the plan God has for your life. It’s a plan to produce an abundant harvest.