How to love yourself when you don't like who you are - and why you don't have to like yourself to start. If self-love messaging has ever felt impossible from where you are standing, this episode is for you.

This is probably one of the most honest conversations about Self-Love. Because there is a place a lot of us know but rarely talk about and is where being told to love yourself doesn't feel like a lifeline. It feels like one more thing you are failing at.

In this episode I explore what Viktor Frankl's work reveals about the space where self-love actually begins, why affirmations can deepen the wound for some people rather than heal it, and how the journey between knowing yourself, accepting yourself and loving yourself is never linear and why that is not regression. That is humanity.

The goal is not to love yourself by tomorrow morning. The goal is to take one tiny step toward yourself today.

In this episode you will discover:

• Why you do not have to like yourself to begin loving yourself - and what the difference between liking and loving actually is
• What Viktor Frankl's insight about the space between stimulus and response means for your self-love journey
• Why affirmations can make things worse when you are in a place of deep self-dislike and self-loathing - and what to do instead
• The three internal states on the journey to self-love - knowing yourself, accepting yourself and loving yourself - and why moving between them is not failure, it is being human
• The neuroscience of self-criticism and why for your brain the leap to self-love is neurologically impossible without small steps first
• Why the overnight transformation fantasy is one of the most damaging ideas in personal development - and what to replace it with

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