Making friends and building relationships.

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How to make new friends.

Hi I'm Brian Pombo, welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live.

A lot of what we do deals in business and the ideas of business, the tactics, strategies, and principles behind business, running a business, basically building a business to do what you want it to do for you and your life.

And today, I'm going to be talking about something that is very human and goes far across the lines. As far as business goes, the reason why I'm talking about it, is that getting to know more people, is what business is all about.

Business is about relationships, one of the top three pillars at BrianJPombo.com is being relationship reliant, and you just have to realize that all business is based on relationships.

If you get that part, then the real trick becomes, Okay, how do I make more relationships with the right type of people not know that there are the right and wrong type of people, but there are a right type of people that work well for you have a business relationship.

And there are people that are not and it's not a good thing or a bad thing?

It's just how it is.

So, this question got asked online, and this question is usually asked by a particular type of person. So I have an answer if you're this particular type of person, what type of person asks, How do you meet new friends?

This is a person who does not naturally know how to meet new friends. And I was one of these people. Okay, how did I learn how to meet through friends?

Well, first, you got to realize why you don't know how to meet new friends, you don't know how to meet new friends, because you are not a natural people person, you are more task-oriented than people-oriented.

This is something that's been talked about a lot through personality theory, psychology, and so forth. What one of the main theories and personalities is called the DISC personality where you have a certain amount of each of these traits, these levels of traits, these four different areas of a trade quadrant.

And one of the areas that you're judged by is whether you're more people-oriented, or task-oriented.

Now there are some people that are right down the middle. And they're just as equally task and people-oriented. But most of us tend to be a little more one than the other. Sometimes we're better at one or the other.

It's not something that you're stuck in for your entire life, you can learn the skill of working with people, but you're naturally inclined toward one side or the other, usually, most of your life.

This is something I did not understand most of my childhood, I was always very outgoing, but very task-oriented.

So I can work with people and everything. But only when a task was associated with it, I'm a very, I got to have a project around, it's got to be work or a project, it's got to have a step by step process to it.

It's got to be something that I can sink my teeth into and when I have that I can make great friends with people and stuff that I learned through time.

Here's one of the things I used to do is just as an example, and maybe you'll relate somewhat to it, and maybe you won't. But to give you an idea, especially if you're more people-oriented, it's important that you know how task-oriented people think.

During a break at recess, I would find,