Tom Nash is Mr Divorce Coach, an internationally certified coach specialising in divorce, separation and family. Divorce and separation matters are often well served by solicitors but so often the emotional aspect is overlooked and under-supported. Tom guides his clients from their decision to separate through the difficult practicalities and responsibilities including children’s reactions to the situation, keeping a beneficial non-acrimonious relationship with an ex-partner and dealing with the changed dynamic involved with the dissolution of a partnership.

His expertise places him regularly in the media from BBC Radio to The Times and recently, an appearance on ITV’s This Morning.

John and Tom discuss his beginnings in Divorce Coaching, modern blended families, guilt and self-resentment, co-parenting and role models. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Tom originally comes from Business and Life Coaching but has become a specialist in Divorce and Separation Coaching due to his own experience with divorce.
• He is trained in Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Timeline Therapy and Hypnotherapy. 
• Stepfamilies and blended families are another area in which Tom specialises. A huge number of families are now categorised as blended by the Office of National Statistics with over 3.7 million included. 
• Sometimes co-parenting can be impossible and then parallel parenting is the only option, with very strict boundaries and rules in place but most co-parenting arrangements can be formed to create maximum benefit to all involved.  
• Each person involved in a divorce has a different viewpoint of the events and emotions involved in separation. 

BEST MOMENTS

‘It was due to personal lived experience of going through a divorce, separation, family courts, child arrangement orders or custody. I was originally going to use those coaching skills in the corporate world where I come from but due to the experience of going through my own divorce and separation, it was actually my partner I have to give credit to who said one night ‘You could use these skills to help other people.’’ – Tom  

‘My parents divorced when I was 9 and step mum and my mum got a new partner and stuff with their kids but it wasn’t the norm.’ – John

‘You have to work backwards and start somewhere and first of all, it’s about identifying what the true emotions are, what the true feelings are behind that. The behaviours that come from thought plus feeling equals behaviour.’ – Tom  

‘I felt so much shame and self-resentment. It was the one thing I’d always said to myself when I was younger, my one personal vow to myself , that I would never break, and did.’ – Tom 

‘I’m one of those very weird people in life that loves ironing. At 3-4 o’clock I put something on TV or I put my headphones on and iron the kids' uniforms. That’s come from the relationship with my dad of actually seeing, in the 80’s, a male role model doing his fair share of the housework.’ – Tom 

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Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

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