If you're struggling with modern motherhood, you do not want to miss this episode. I brought back Liz Durham (host of the podcast Being Different), who has transitioned from being a full-time working mom to a full-time SAHM. She and I offer a countercultural guide for younger women who've been raised at a time in which motherhood has been sidelined or even rejected altogether. 
We discuss (among other things):



 How dumping the 50-50 mindset will make the experience lighter.
 How it takes a family, not a "village," to raise healthy kids.
  That motherhood isn't about you.
  The significance of the first three years
  How to embrace the discomfort and the unknown
  How to deal with isolation
  Why daycare can't provide discipline


Ep 178. How to Nest in a Culture That Wants You to Earn

TIRED OF THE LIES AND THE SPIN perpetuated in the culture about men and women, sex and love, marriage and motherhood? If so, get ready to hear hard-hitting truths that will make you cry out “Yes! Finally someone tells it like it is!”

In her signature no-nonsense style, author and relationship coach Suzanne Venker offers support, motivation, and countercultural guidance on how to prioritize love and family and build strong relationships at home.

Society & Culture

Personal Journals

History

Philosophy

Places & Travel

Suzanne reads several letters from women who've been shamed for prioritizing marriage and motherhood over career and juxtaposes this message with the reality of Barbara Walters' life, who did just that.


https://www.washingtonpost.com/books/2024/04/22/susan-page-rulebreaker-barbara-walters/



"There was never a time anyone acted like it was appropriate for me to say I wanted to be a wife and mother."

Suzanne talks about her follow-up conversation with Alex Clark of The Spillover and the shocking reality women experience in becoming new mothers.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1zuLwSOLjZs&list;=PLxx4kcMvHrwLrizrjHljVIsFqv7iLkbQa&index;=4

30-something women everywhere are BLINDSIDED by the reality of motherhood

Is eight hours per week of work away from my two children too much?
How do my husband and I maintain intimacy? Our relationship has taken a hit since I became a breastfeeding/co-sleeping mother. 

Suzanne answers reader/listener emails

The culture insists men and women would be happier if they pretended they're interchangeable and moved through life accordingly. 
But study after study after study after study proves otherwise.


LINKS:https://news.illinois.edu/view/6367/542579
https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2017/09/20/americans-see-men-as-the-financial-providers-even-as-womens-contributions-grow/
https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2006/03/why-feminist-wives-are-unhappy.html
https://thelibertarianrepublic.com/nyt-traditional-gender-roles-may-mean-better-marriages/

Deviating from conventional gender roles makes most men and women miserable

Suzanne responds to folks who suggested a new way to keep The Suzanne Venker Show going...

Ep 178. How to Nest in a Culture That Wants You to Earn

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