When someone points out your flaws and tries to put the blame on you for this or that, it’s so easy to feel triggered. When it’s your spouse, your partner, or someone you love that’s doing it, it’s even easier to get defensive and feel hurt. But what if your partner is also doing it in a way that makes them feel great and more amazing in comparison? Tom and Lisa walk through both sides of this scenario for how to cope with being criticized and blamed when you’re being attacked and also feeling attacked. Over and over we come back to communication really being key to a healthy, happy, and long-lasting relationship. Today is no exception, let’s talk about being defensive and the best way to think about it.   SHOW NOTES:   Feeling Attacked | Explore why you’re feeling attacked and how to interpret the situation [0:40] Being Attacked | Tom explains his response if he were being attacked [3:13] Defensive | Lisa’s advice for not feeling defensive when your intentions fail [5:11]   QUOTES:   “I never lead with this person is attacking me, I always lead with why am I feeling attacked?” Tom Bilyeu [2:25]   “If you get what you intended, you have done the right thing. If you do not get what you intended, [...] you have, by definition, used the wrong strategy.” Tom Bilyeu [4:10]   “for whatever reason, using that word with me does rattle me, so use this word instead, so I can hear what you're saying.” [6:35]
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How to Overcome ARGUMENTS with these SIMPLE TIPS | Relationship Theory

Health Theory is a twice weekly interview show, hosted by Quest Nutrition co-founder, Tom Bilyeu. Each episode offers tactical steps one can take to improve their wellbeing and achieve their goals from the world's top health experts in their field.

Health & Fitness

Learn how to build IRONCLAD discipline in this free workshop:https://impacttheory.krtra.com/t/fvTIUaysMqCpOn Today's Episode:It’s obvious that what we put into our bodies has a major impact on how we feel, how we perform, and how we live the life we have. While some people choose to live in the moment for pleasure with little regard to consequences, others calculate and carefully consider what they consume, when they do and how they do it. Optimizing for physical and mental performances, reducing stress and improving lifespan and memory is worth more than a moment of pleasure, and it may be possible to biohack your way there.Ben Greenfield is a biohacker, fitness coach, endurance athlete, and bestselling author of more than a dozen books, including Boundless. His experiences and level of intention in biohacking his health is so clearly communicated, he will leave you inspired and impressed.Check out his other interviews and conversations with Tom here:Bio-hack Your Body, Connect to Your Spiritual Self: https://youtu.be/uHMSuxACy5g Optimize Your Body and Brain Right Now: https://youtu.be/M9AV-wrgW9w SHOW NOTES:0:00 | Introduction to Ben Greenfield0:27 | How to Live Forever13:40 | The Exercise Sweet Spot19:51 | Climb Your Own Everest28:48 | A New Style of Parenting34:04 | Responsible Micro-dosing39:26 | Enhance Your Sex Life47:53 | Know Your Purpose in LifeQUOTES:Before you go after the ‘I want to live forever and have my head cryogenically frozen,’ [...] to instead go after this low hanging fruit, you can get outside barefoot…” [5:53]“Fast for a couple hours after exercise that also allows the body to have to fight its own battle.” [13:01]“More than 60 minutes of intense exercise, [...] you see a law of diminishing returns and increased risk of mortality.” [16:14]“I think everyone is born with a unique skill set. One of the best ways to know what your purpose is, what your passion is, is to think about what you enjoyed to do when you were young.” [24:06]“There are certain decisions that I think a child should be far more equipped to make young in life so that as they get older they are able to responsibly handle those decisions.” [30:04]“I am a Christian and I believe that God actually created a lot of these plants to allow him to be able to speak to us in a very deep and meaningful way when the time comes.” [36:12]“Everyone should be able to clearly and succinctly name their purpose in life.” [48:22]Follow Ben Greenfield:Website: https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/bengreenfieldfitness Twitter: https://twitter.com/bengreenfield Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bengreenfieldfitness/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BGFitness/ Podcast: https://bengreenfieldfitness.com/podcast/
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DO THIS EVERYDAY To Slow Aging Down & Even REVERSE IT! | Ben Greenfield

As you know, it’s my mission to help teach you how to build the MINDSET and SKILLS that will help you live an extraordinary life - and over the last few months I’ve been working hard behind the scenes to help create a brand-new tool that will help you do that. It’s called Kyzen - and I am proud to announce that I will be bringing it to the world later this year to challenge you to empower yourself and accomplish greater things in life. To learn more, join my Discord at http://impacttheory.com/discordBig goals require DISCIPLINE. By it's very nature, discipline requires you to do hard things - and that is a skill you can LEARN. I'm teaching my process to build Ironclad Discipline in a new workshop - you can register at discipline.impacttheory.com!On Today's Episode:How do we avoid a recipe for disaster when it’s leaving us undernourished and overfed? Max Lugavere, science journalist, NY Times best-selling author and host of the Genius Life Podcast, is joining Tom and running down the role of sugar in obesity and what foods are better to avoid when you want to optimize your body’s nourishment and stop overeating.Medical costs due to obesity was near $173 billion in the United States in 2019. Being over weight literally has a higher price tag that reaches far beyond the personal affects and limitations it places on your body and lifestyle. By now, we are well aware of how sugar is destroying our health, but is it really every kind of sugar, and what can you do about it to see improvement without feeling shamed and degraded for not being “skinny.” Max also addresses why being skinny and a smaller size doesn’t equate to being healthier and healthy actually looks like.“Eat what you need to build” -Tom BilyeuCheck out Max Lugavere’s latest book, Genius Kitchen: https://www.amazon.com/Genius-Kitchen-Delicious-Recipes-Strong/dp/006302294X SHOW NOTES:0:00 Introduction Max Lugavere0:28 | Avoid These Foods8:38 | Surprising Impacts of Sugar20:03 | Should You Eat Dairy?29:34 | The Worst Oils to Consume45:34 | Is Mouthwash Bad for You?52:48 | Meat Vs. PlantsQUOTES:“There should be no shame attached to obesity. We should be encouraging people to shift their body at any stage to a more healthy state.” [2:25]“The reason added sugar plays a role in the obesity epidemic is because we don’t tire of consuming it…” [7:05]“I think butter is actually a food worth relegating to the indulgence category, [...] butter is a manmade product, dairy is made by nature.” [22:50]“That’s the problem with eating out in general, you can’t always predict how a food is going to make you feel.” [29:25]“Approach these oils with great caution because they didn’t exist in the human food supply 200 years ago.” [39:50]“Indulge when you choose to because no single meal, single indulgence, is going to sway your health in any direction, positive or negative.” [45:03]“People who frequently use mouthwash, what you’re doing is you’re nuking bacteria in your mouth that are required to create and recycle nitric oxide...” [46:13]“People who consume more meat, and especially processed meat, they tend to have worst health outcomes but that’s because [...] they tend to be more sedentary, they tend to smoke more. People that are vegan tend to be more health conscious…” [56:11]“I’m not saying that everyone should go out and become carnivores, [...] but I think we do need to get back to some sort of semblance of common sense…” [1:00:28]“It’s not like plants don’t have a potential downside…” [1:01:42]Follow Max Lugavere: Website: 
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The TOP FOODS You Absolutely SHOULD NOT EAT To Live Longer! | Max Lugavere

As you know, it’s my mission to help teach you how to build the MINDSET and SKILLS that will help you live an extraordinary life - and over the last few months I’ve been working hard behind the scenes to help create a brand-new tool that will help you do that. It’s called Kyzen - and I am proud to announce that I will be bringing it to the world later this year to challenge you to empower yourself and accomplish greater things in life. To learn more, join my Discord at http://impacttheory.com/discordBig goals require DISCIPLINE. By it's very nature, discipline requires you to do hard things - and that is a skill you can LEARN. I'm teaching my process to build Ironclad Discipline in a new workshop - you can register at discipline.impacttheory.com!On today's Episode: When you are unhappy, you may find yourself constantly seeking approval from others, scared to take risks, and hyper focused on the things you don’t have or lack in life. You may unconsciously have habits that are keeping you from being happy, and after this episode you know what you can do to start living with more happiness and intention.Dr. Rangan Chatterjee is a physician that focuses on successfully treating illness with progressive medicine while taking a 360 approach to health. He’s written multiple books on how to feel better, lose weight, better manage stress and live a happy life. In this episode he’s sharing practical things you can do right now to stop living an unhappy life.Happiness is a skill we can improve and get better at. It doesn’t have to be overly complicated, and it is super critical to your outlook on life, your relationships, and the state of your overall health. Struggling with health and happiness and not seeing the connection between the two is a mistake we’ve all made for too long.Let’s get practical and answer these simple questions and thought exercises today:What are 3 things you could do this week that would truly make you happy and content? What are 3 things you would wish you have done on your deathbed and regret not doing?Think about the values that encompass who you are and write them down.Deciding to live with intention and making the conscious decisions you need to make in order to live a better, happier, and healthier life is free, and it’s the most valuable thing you can do right now for you and the people you love.Check out Dr. Chatterjee’s latest book, Happy Mind, Happy Life: https://amzn.to/39ytbbu SHOW NOTES:0:00 | Introduction Dr Rangan Chatterjee0:23 | Why You’re Not Happy7:55 | How To Live In Alignment26:35 | Gain Perspective Today41:52 | Take Control of Your Life48:14 | Will You Regret Your Choices55:41 | Create Happy HabitsQUOTES:“A lot of us don’t know who we are anymore. A Lot of us don’t know what life we’re wanting to live. A lot of us are living unintentional lives where we’re essentially asleep.” [4:30]“Us not acting in alignment with who we really are is a huge stress on the body.” [9:04]“Your dreams won’t make you happy, [...] unless you’re intentional about them.” [11:43]“You can be happier than you currently are, [...] I think you can have success and happiness. I don’t think you have to choose between the two.” [24:02]“Even if you’re consuming killer, uplifting, inspirational content all the time, even that’s problematic. You have to be able to sit with your own thoughts.” [32:23]‘We’re so disconnected from our bodies and our innermost thoughts, we’re so up here in our head, moving forward, learning new things, consuming more and more and more that actually, we’re not listening to the signals that our body is sending us.”...
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DO THIS Every Morning To Destroy Laziness & Quickly GET OUT OF A RUT! | Dr. Rangan Chatterjee

As you know, it’s my mission to help teach you how to build the MINDSET and SKILLS that will help you live an extraordinary life - and over the last few months I’ve been working hard behind the scenes to help create a brand-new tool that will help you do that. It’s called Kyzen - and I am proud to announce that I will be bringing it to the world later this year to challenge you to empower yourself and accomplish greater things in life. To learn more, join my Discord at http://impacttheory.com/discordBig goals require DISCIPLINE. By it's very nature, discipline requires you to do hard things - and that is a skill you can LEARN. I'm teaching my process to build Ironclad Discipline in a new workshop - you can register at discipline.impacttheory.com!The fountain of youth is a mythical spring that has been the basis of many Hollywood movies and cosmetic marketing campaigns! Our obsession with youth and being young forever has been the source of cosmetic surgery and endless stories of ‘back in my day’.David Sinclair is a Professor in the Department of Genetics and co-Director of the Paul F. Glenn Center for Biology of Aging at Harvard Medical School. As a professor, scientific investigator and co-founder of multiple biotech companies, his knowledge with epigenetics and reverse aging is highly regarded among professional colleagues in the industry. He’s appeared on dozens of podcasts, written books, and hosts his own podcast, Lifespan. As a guest on Health Theory the conversations around reverse aging and biological clocks are more than enlightening.Finding the root cause to aging and understanding how diet, exercise, and lifestyle choices impact our aging process puts the power of perspective and knowledge within your control. You don’t have to guess or hope for a mythical spring of magical water that holds the secret of youth. You can make a decision everyday to turn back the clock, slow the aging process, and reset your age.SHOW NOTES:0:00 | Introduction to David Sinclair0:12 | Daily Hacks to Slow Aging28:50 | How to Reset Your Age58:43 | This Causes Aging1:32:23 | How to Understand AgingQUOTES:“80% of your longevity and health in old age is controllable and only 20% is dictated by your genes, the genome. The rest is your epigenome that responds to how we live   [7:36]“Our livers are much smarter than our eyes and our mouths…”  [24:35]“Anything that stresses your body, puts it into a state of shock is good in the long run.” [38:16]“When I boiled it down to its essence I realized aging was a loss of information.” [1:01:58]“That’s part of the problem with aging, which is genes getting turned on when they should be kept off for decades, and then cells start to get confused.” [1:14:17]Follow David Sinclair: Website: https://sinclair.hms.harvard.edu/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/davidsinclairpodcast Podcast: https://anchor.fm/lifespan Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidsinclairphd/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/davidasinclair Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davidsinclairphd
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The DAILY HACKS To Look Younger, Live Longer & REVERSE YOUR AGE | Dr. David Sinclair

Permeable blood brain barrier and gut barrier connected to inflammation and autoimmunity diseases is enough to make anyone’s head spin.Dealing with these health conditions can be frightening and endless. Your body’s reaction to proteins and your immune response can be highly frustrating when you’re being instructed to follow “protocols” and standards of treatment.If you or someone you love has felt betrayed living a standard healthy lifestyle only to fall prey to gut issues, autoimmune disease and declining cognition, you’re not alone.Dr. Datis Kharrazian is a world-renowned functional medicine health care provider. He specializes in managing chronic diseases, autoimmunity and neurological problems. He treats his patients with non-pharmaceuticals, and is in extremely high demand from patients and other healthcare professionals wanting to learn his clinical models.In this episode, Dr. Kharrazian is addressing the flaw with medical treatments that over standardize what people are experiencing and the causes. He’s explaining why giving blanket treatments and protocols can cause patients far worse health conditions than where they started.Check out Dr. Kharrazian’s book, Why Isn’t My Brain Working: https://amzn.to/3wvDplt SHOW NOTES:0:00 | Introduction to Datis Kharrazian0:37 | Do You Have Leaky Brain?4:15 | The Problem with Gluten16:48 | How Autoimmune Disease Happens25:37 | Avoid These Foods32:22 | Prevent Brain Disease39:57 | Do This To Stay Healthy51:10 | Push Neurological LimitsQUOTES:“The same inflammatory oxidative stress mechanisms that break down the gut barrier can also break down the blood brain barrier.” [2:20]“We’re all at risk for developing autoimmune disease, and the rates of autoimmune disease now exceed cancer and cardiovascular disease combined.”  [20:33]“The more diverse your gut bacteria microbiome is, the more immune regulation you have, the greater tolerance you have, and things like exercise improves gut microbiome diversity.”  [32:00]“I do not have a protocol. I think protocols are inefficient.” [42:09]“Stress when it’s controlled and it’s past a person’s abilities, can be devastating to the brain.” [46:35]“Whatever you can’t do, you do! That’s a simple concept of neurological rehab.” [52:24]“The brain needs stimulation, the brain needs glucose, the brain needs oxygen, that’s what it has to have to thrive.” [57:10]Follow Datis Kharazian: Website: https://drknews.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgTTDpIy3DrhmKiP22BOEyQ Twitter: https://twitter.com/drkharrazian Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datiskharrazian/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/datiskharrazianpage/  Podcast: https://drknews.com/podcasts/
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How to Overcome ARGUMENTS with these SIMPLE TIPS | Relationship Theory

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