It's easy to do.  Especially when you're in a middle of visit and parents are chasing him to engage and he's escaping, avoiding and seeking movement.  Who's priorities do you follow?  Parents have their priorities and this child has another.  This episode looks at a visit where I went into a backwards slide to try and fix this interaction and then ultimately rebounded in the same visit and got back on track with coaching to increase parent/child engagement.  I explain the value of feedback and what it means to use our knowledge and expertise to increase caregiver understanding.  Coaching is not "this or that" you don't have to leave all the old "toy bag" strategies behind; take those strategies and use them in a more intentional way.