Today’s Tea with Jules episode is one of those conversations that sits with you. The kind that gently nudges you to look inward, reflect, and reconnect with yourself and the people you love.

I’m joined by relationship therapist Nicole Armstrong, Managing Director of The
Relationship Practice, a specialist in attachment theory, communication patterns, emotional awareness, and helping individuals, couples and families navigate relational challenges with honesty, courage, and compassion.

Nicole isn’t just an expert in her field, she has been my personal therapist, and someone whose guidance has helped me rebuild calm in seasons of anxiety, deepen connection in my relationships, and nurture a healthier relationship with myself.

In this episode, we explore why women historically place themselves last, how to rebuild connection with ourselves, and what a healthy partnership actually looks like. We talk attachment styles, conflict, boundaries, time, and why sometimes the bravest thing we can do is slow down.

Key Takeaways

• Your needs are not less important than anyone else's.
• You cannot pour from an empty cup - you have to refill yours first.
• Connection deepens when we are genuine, vulnerable, and willing to communicate honestly.
• Thinking time isn’t indulgent - it's essential.
• We all deserve a life that feels meaningful and joyful.

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Disclaimer
The content in this episode is for informational and educational purposes only and is not intended to replace individual therapy, medical care or professional advice. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a qualified health professional or trusted support service in your area.

Credits:
Sound Engineer & Music: @kailesh_reitmans
Videographer & Editor: @nathan_niguidula
Producer: @lisajohnston_ @julessebastian

Welcome to Tea with Jules hosted by Jules Sebastian. Here we spill the tea and learn life lessons from honest conversations with experts, celebrities and friends.