Pull up a chair at our favorite Denny's booth and join Crista, Debbie, and Keri for a lively, laughter-filled, and deeply insightful (though somewhat chaotic) conversation! This special in-person episode dives into the reality of setting boundaries as Christians, dealing with toxic relationships (even within the family or church), and holding fast to biblical truth—while keeping things light-hearted and real.

Amid joyful laughter, breakfast banter, and the occasional check-in from their waitress, the ladies explore:

• How to lovingly set boundaries, even when guilt, expectations, or people-pleasing get in the way

• Why conflict and confrontation don't have to lead to quarrels, and how to stay teachable and responsive to the Holy Spirit

• Praying for wisdom, discernment, and God's timing in hard conversations

• The difference between boundaries and ultimatums—and why "no" is a holy word

• The importance of accountability, support, and being rooted in your identity in Christ

• Spiritual warfare, forgiveness, releasing offense, and protecting your peace

• Real-life stories, practical tips for emotional safety, and a powerful reminder of God's faithfulness

You'll leave this episode refreshed, encouraged, and equipped for the everyday battles of faith, relationships, and self-care. (Bonus: you'll probably want to find some sparkly coffee mugs and schedule your own breakfast get-together!)

Key Points & Takeaways

• Boundaries Are Biblical: Setting loving, firm boundaries is not unchristian. It's necessary for spiritual health and doesn't mean enabling toxic behavior.

• Guilt & People-Pleasing: Guilt is a common struggle, especially when boundaries "hurt" others. Holding to truth and love frees you from unhealthy expectations.

• Accountability Is Essential: Trusted friends help us spot enabling patterns and blind spots. You're not meant to do this alone!

• Prayerful, Spirit-Led Communication: Before hard conversations, ask the Holy Spirit to pave the way, give you the right words, and reveal the right timing.

• Emotional Safety Matters: It's OK to walk away, take a "grown-up timeout," and structure environments for your own well-being.

• Forgiveness & Release: Forgiving and releasing someone to God doesn't mean continued exposure to harm. Boundaries protect YOUR heart, too.

• Boundaries vs. Ultimatums: Boundaries protect YOU; ultimatums attempt to control others. Don't confuse the two!

• Spiritual Perspective: Zoom out—remember the enemy wants offense, bitterness, and drama. Stay rooted in your identity and God's truth.

• Every Victory Counts: Catching yourself sooner and sooner in old patterns is a win! Growing is a process.

• Fun & Fellowship: Christians are anything but boring—laughter and honesty are vital parts of the journey.

10 Journal Prompts Inspired by This Episode

1. Where do I feel prompted to set healthier boundaries in my life right now?

2. When have I felt guilty for saying "no" or holding a boundary? What truth can replace that guilt?

3. How do I respond when someone I love gets upset with my boundaries?

4. Who is my accountability partner, or who could I invite to walk with me in this area?

5. What's a pattern of enabling I have noticed—and what's one step to shift that?

6. How does God's Word encourage me to respond to conflict and toxic behaviors?

7. When was the last time I prayed specifically for wisdom and timing before a hard conversation? What happened?

8. Am I holding on to unforgiveness or offense? What would it look like to release it to God?

9. Do I confuse boundaries with ultimatums or control? Where is God inviting me to let go?

10. What truth about my identity in Christ do I need to remember the next time I feel pressure to "fix" someone or keep the peace at all costs?

More About the Guest

Debbie Reeves: Debbie is a professional counselor and Christ-follower with powerful insights on faith, boundaries, and emotional health. She brings wisdom from both her therapeutic practice and personal journey, and she's passionate about equipping others to walk in freedom. Find her on Youtube @Nanafeedingtheheart

Crista Hoffman: Crista is a co-founder of Savor The Word ministries, encourager, and joyful voice on the Every Day Royalty Podcast. She loves digging into God's Word and sharing real-life stories of victory and learning.

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What You Can Do Next—Every Day Royalty Family!

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