In today’s episode, I share my story. How a simple mindset shift took me from nearly a decade of disappointment to a proposal in Paris. With a rather luxurious choice between five extremely eligible suitors along the way.

Quotes from today’s episode:

“ I genuinely thought the best I could hope for was ‘the cream of the dregs’—until I completely shifted my approach, and everything changed.”

“The number of times I had mini-relationships with people I wasn’t even into, and then was dumped by, and was like, ‘This is just the absolute pits, because I feel really hurt and rejected by someone who was never quite right for me—but even they don’t want me.’ I processed every encounter with a victim mentality.”

“ I was allowing myself to be swept up by either attraction or validation or distraction because I was incredibly lost and lonely, and none of those things were taking me towards love. But as soon as I set the intention of being in love, and accepting nothing less, the options completely transformed.”

 “You focus less on what’s out there and what you’re getting and more on what’s here and what you’re setting.”

“What’s here is a readiness for love—love, gorgeous love. And what you’re setting is the vibe for how you want to be treated, because you’re treating yourself that way. You’re not giving time and energy to anything that’s not leading you down the path to love. Anything that’s leading you away from love is an instant no.”

“  You want someone who likes everything about you. And then, when they discover the parts of you that are less straightforward and more complicated, they find more curiosity and more love.”

“We’re looking for people we can really be ourselves with. People we can relax and be at home with—who like the entirety of us. If we’re a sphere, we don’t want someone who’s just gonna like the sunshiny part. We want someone who can accept and respect the darker parts, so we can keep turning in a circle, like the Earth.”

 “You're looking for just one person. That's totally doable. You're looking for just one person that's totally doable, right?!”

And you are going to find them. They are looking for you, too.

So be a beacon of love—by giving yourself a little love bath every day. Take a few minutes and set the intention to experience the energetic warmth of friendliness in your body. Now, let that warmth expand and grow. Imagine being in love and how it makes you feel – invigorated, alive, at home, relaxed, limitless, energised, welcoming. Now send your beloved a little mental love note. Tell them you’re excited to meet them. Tell them you’re ready when they are. Tell them you can wait, but also that you can’t wait for all the fun to come!

Happy lighthouse-ing.

Until next week.

Love,

Juliet

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