Most parents know that when their sons or daughters cross the line, they need to show some grace. But how far should you go with the grace thing?

First, let me tell you one thing grace isn’t. It’s not lettin’ ‘em off the hook! Taking back the consequences for rule-breaking isn’t showing grace at all. It actually hurts your teen in the long run.

So here’s what grace is: moving toward your child, regardless of what they’ve done or how badly they’ve behaved. Let them suffer the consequence of their actions, without letting your relationship suffer.

Next time your teen blows it, work extra hard to let them deal with the consequences. The rules still apply. But make sure your son or daughter knows how much you care.

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