Today’s topic – how to stop approval whoring – is one that has been controversial to my listeners before. Many people use the term “people pleasing” for the kind of behavior I’m talking about on today’s episode, but I’ve got some good reasons for not using that terminology.

I think the phrase “people pleasing” sounds a bit too nice, and being a recovering approval whore myself, I knew I needed to call this behavior something that would wake me up to the reality of its toxic effects.

Being a people pleaser or an approval whore means we are selling ourselves out in order to gain someone else’s approval. We act in a way that’s not in alignment with who we are or who we want to be.

We often use approval whoring as a way to disconnect from shame. Instead of sitting with the feelings of rejection or shame that come from not being liked/accepted/included, we cover up who we really are with words and actions that are designed to solicit approval from someone else.

You want to play by your own rules + step into who you really are – not constantly seek out approval from others. 

Listen to this week’s episode as I talk about the eight steps you can take to stop approval whoring (or approval whore recovery, as I like to call it). The keys to this process include accepting the fact that you’re selling yourself out to gain approval, not judging yourself for this behavior, and slowing down the process of seeking acceptance when you feel shame.

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