Are you stuck in a cycle of relentless effort but feel likeyou're never doing enough? In this episode, we explore how the "Try Hard" habit fuels chronic overworking, perfectionism, and burnout.

Discover the exact childhood messages driving your need toprove your worth today and learn how this unconscious pattern, (part of Adrienne Lee’s “Drowning Person” model in Transactional Analysis), might actually be sabotaging your professional success.

What You Will Learn:

💡 Discover why trying hard might be sabotaging your success and pushing people away instead of impressing them

💡 Learn the childhood origins of the "try hard" pattern and how unconscious messages from your past are driving your overwork today

💡 Get actionable strategies to break the cycle including delegation techniques, time-blocking methods, and the gold standard approach for automatic behaviour change

Tune in next week for the Hurry Up pattern.

Here’s to your leadership development and personal growth!

Estelle Read  

Bestselling Author, Coach & Speaker

Timestamps:

(00:00) Introduction - Why trying hard is your enemy
(01:45) The try hard pattern explained
(03:30) Core fear of being deemed lazy or inadequate
(05:05) Where the try hard pattern comes from
(06:09) Childhood drivers and unconscious messages
(07:32) Adult problems caused by trying hard
(08:00) Client story: Academic inadequacy and imposter syndrome
(10:53) Client transformation results
(12:25) Strategies for overcoming try hard
(13:22) Mindset shift: Define what good enough is
(14:18) Practical tools

(18:18) Why willpower isn't enough: The role of Havening and EFT in burnout
(18:52) Setting boundaries

(19:44) Micro action

(20:22) Resources

(21:26) The next episode: The Hurry Up pattern

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