Episode 7:  Hello and welcome back! I’m so jazzed to dive into today's topic.  It's all about connected empowered communication.  Do you ever feel at a complete loss on how to get through to your partner?  Your child?  You talk and talk and yet it seems to go nowhere.  

Well, my friend, this episode is for you.  

We’re going to talk about how you’re sabotaging your relationships through communication, what to look out for, and how to cultivate connected communication.  I can't emphasize this enough: This is a relationship game-changer.   

How does empowered communication differ from victim mentality communication? 

Victim mentality communication is reacting to other's emotions.  It's needing others to do/say/act in a certain way so we can feel calm.  Most of us live here most of the time.

Connected, empowered communication is being responsible for your feelings.  It’s honoring your boundaries.  It’s extending compassion & empathy towards others while holding them as capable of being responsible for their feelings.  

It’s an awareness that we’re having our own, unique experience & so is everyone else.

Awareness that our experience is the only thing we really have control over.  This is how we stay calm amidst other’s big emotions.

"Connected/empowered communication is the ability to state your needs. To maintain compassion and empathy along with an awareness that everyone has their own reality.  It's stepping out of having to defend your position."

"It is seeking to understand vs. be understood or be right"

"It is letting go of the responsibility of anyone else's emotional state"

Ah, yes. Freedom. This allows us to find calm.  Not only does this feel better for us, but in doing so, we are inviting others to do the same.  Because here is the thing...we lead with our energy.  

"Your ability to return to your inner calm is where your influence in your communication lies."  

So often when we feel overwhelmed & out of control we react with rigidity & inflexibility, creating the power struggle.  But in calm, we can communicate what we need and not take other’s reactions personally, diffusing the battle for control.

Instead, creating connection.  This connection brings more cooperation & a greater willingness to see the other side.

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