Men and women just don't communicate the same way, contends sociologist Deborah Tannen, author of You Just Don't Understand--Women and Men in Conversation.  Ever since the days of Adam and Eve, however, women have been telling us that men and women don't talk the same language. Even scientists have been telling us that there are differences in brain patterns between men and women which affect our ability to communicate with each other.  Again, no great surprise to women.  One veteran of many unsuccessful bouts to get through to a non-communicative husband wrote, and with a stroke of resignation, she said, "He has lazy speech muscles--that's all!"