“You have all these different ways of communicating, and basically it’s understanding the context of the individual and why they have that context. I tell you, I think the best de-escalator of all situations is having non-judgmental curiosity.” - Robin Dreeke 

You may remember a very popular past guest of Brave By Design, Robin Dreeke, who was here earlier this year to discuss how to trust people and build healthy relationships. I’m happy to have him back today to dive even deeper into this topic, which I think is particularly important during this current US election cycle. Robin has spent a lot of time talking with people who don’t agree with each other, and in the process he has learned to work with them, which is why I think I think he’s the ideal person to be giving his thoughts to us. 

Robin Dreeke is a best-selling author, professional speaker, trainer, facilitator, and retired FBI Special Agent and Chief of the Counterintelligence Behavioral Analysis Program. Robin has taken his life's work of recruiting spies and broken down the art of leadership, communication, and relationship building into Five Steps to TRUST and Six Signs of who you can TRUST.

I love following Robin’s content on social media, and we especially need his level-headed, reasonable and insightful commentary now more than ever. 

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode: 

• When he feels things shifted in the world, and the impact that a 24-hour news cycle has had on us as a society [3:41]
  
  
• Robin’s background in working with people, and some of the big lessons he has taken from his experiences [6:36]
  
  
• What he feels is the best way to de-escalate any situation, plus the dangerous impact of negative emotions on healthy relationships [9:29]
  
  
• The 4 things to say and do to shift every conversation you have from focusing on you, to focusing on the other person [13:00]
  
  
• Why Robin believes that self-awareness is the true key to success in life [21:16]
  
  
• How to talk to someone who shuts down around the issues that exist with race, and to encourage them to keep having the conversation [28:14]
  
  
• The ways that understanding each other’s definitions and language can help us adapt in these challenging and fast-changing times [37:10]
   

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Robin’s LinkedIn, Twitter, Instagram & YouTube

His Videos & Podcasts 

All of Robin’s Books 

His Previous Appearance on Brave By Design

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