How to Trust Again When You've Been Hurt

How to Trust Again When You’ve Been Hurt It’s Season 3 Episode 3. This podcast was inspired by my Facebook Live. Most of my audience are female and I constantly hear that people have been hurt by other women or other relationships in the church or even within your own family. I wanted to dig deeper into from my FB live about this subject. Grieving the loss of my mom became much more than the physical loss. I was also grieving the loss of the mom that I would never know. I always hoped that she and I would have a normal mother-daughter relationship. Unfortunately, that didn’t happen, so I began to I look to other woman in my life, to fill that void. Instead of receiving the openness I had expected from these ladies, I only found rejection. I was crushed and left to fend for myself during the most difficult time of my life. That experience left me guarded and withdrawn from relationships and from trusting people. The danger in all of this is I let the enemy turn my heart towards people and relationships.  Listen, some of you are fixers, and you are attracted to broken people, always thinking you are going to fix them. Please know you attract who you are. It’s time to make some changes. Here are 6 tips to learn how to trust again: [8:47] Our disappointments come from failed expectations. Not everyone is out to get you. It’s possible that the people you except to help you aren’t able to help themselves. They simply do not have the capacity to help you right now. Pray for healing and restoration for your heart, but also for their heart. They may need healing as well. [10:11] Surround yourself with safe people. Pray for God to bring and foster safe and healthy relationships into your life. Pray! [11:54] Healing can come through people, safe people. We all need to have people in our lives. Safe, non-judgmental people that you can go to. Surround yourself with people who love you for who you are, are there for you and are with you, unconditionally. [14:48] Build real human connections. Stop texting and get out there to experience real human interactions and emotions. Travel to see your friends, call people, go visit your friends. Be present, face to face. Build real, genuine relationships that go beyond social media. We were made to crave human connections. [15:42] Don’t trust everybody. Trust is something that is earned. Allow relationships to grow organically. To do that, it takes time so slow down and put in the time in. Stop putting so much weight into people too soon.  [18:20] Prayer for healing. This is a powerful prayer to fix brokenness and to heal wounds of the heart from failed relationships. A prayer to bring safe people into your life. Freedom from anxiety, hopelessness, the sadness and from the spirit of heaviness. Breaking the thought of suicide.  God desires we have healthy relationships. God always knows all things! *** If you are feeling suicidal or have had suicidal thoughts, please contact me on Instagram by sending me a message for continued prayer.***   Please Tag, rate and review this episode and listen next week for Listener shout outs! References: Facebook Public Page: Amanda Ferguson https://www.facebook.com/mrsamandaferguson/ “Safe People: How to Find Relationships that are Good for You andAvoid Those That Aren’t’ by Henry Cloud and John Townsend https://www.amazon.com/Safe-People-Relationships-Avoid-Those/dp/0310345790 Bishop T.D. Jakes https://www.tdjakes.org/   Scripture References: Psalm 30:5 For His anger endureth but a moment, and in His favor is life; weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning. 1 Corinthians 2:9 However, as it is written: What no eye has seen, what no ear has heard,and what no human mind has conceived the things God has prepared for those who love him. Psalm 147:3 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Jeremiah 1:5 “Before I formed you in the womb I knew[you,before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.”   Subscribe & Review Have you subscribed to The Amanda Ferguson podcast? If not, I would encourage you to do that today. I would not like for you to miss any of the episodes coming up this season. I will be adding bonus episodes and if you are not subscribed there might be a possibility that you’ll miss out on them. Click here to subscribe in iTunes to have the podcast downloaded to your device every week. I would love to stay connected with you! If my podcast is blessing your life, I would appreciate if you left me a review over on iTunes. Select the Ratings & Reviews and write a review. I will be reading your reviews and do not forget to comment on what was your favorite part of the podcast. For more of The Amanda Ferguson Show, you can also follow me on Instagram and Facebook @mrsamandaferguson. Thank you so much!   Also, to be the first to receive email alerts, subscribe to amandasclub.com. Thank you so much!