Here’s the problem with expectations. We develop this mentality that we’ll exceed all of them. They become hard and fast rules. Not necessarily goals - they become facts. And then, when they go unmet, we face the emotional, spiritual and physical toll of what seems like failure. But that’s just not true. Expectations can change. They can be molded...but only if we hold them loosely. Many women expect getting pregnant to be a simple, easy thing. But as I got married, as my best friends got married, we all started approaching this next stage with this expectation of pregnancy. Morgan was my childhood best friend and continues to be one of my very best friends today. When she told me she and her husband had decided to start having kids, I was ecstatic. I knew she would be this incredible mother who would actually remember to pack her child’s juice for school and cook meals that include at least one vegetable every day. Months passed. And I never got a call with exciting news. Instead it was disappointment as Morgan came up with a negative sign - on every single pregnancy test. But how she faced this season, how she chose to respond to these unmet expectations is an encouragement to any woman facing infertility. This is No One Told Me How To Walk Through Infertility.