In today’s episode, Leslie and Leslyn start out by talking about the value of arguing. When couples - or people in relationships - confront issues, respectfully oppose, and seek resolution, they are not only demonstrating maturity but teaching observers that you can love someone and still disagree. It’s an important skill to teach children. When we withhold this demonstration, we allow a false impression to develop.

They continue on to describe what a healthy argument looks like and most importantly, share how to end with a win. Ultimately, it’s when both parties feel heard, respected, and experience a sense of resolution in some manner. As usual, they use examples and real life stories to drive home the point.

They introduce John Gottman, PhD - a leading researcher in the field of couples therapy - and comment on his recommended strategies on conflict resolution. The use of “I” statements, validation, listening, and vocalizing needs is discussed. Additionally, Leslie and Leslyn offer some realistic examples of what it sounds like to take responsibility and offer empathy even if you don’t agree with your partner.