Transitions in life can be traumatic and can rock us to the core.  Often, they stay with us as a strong memory resulting in negative emotion that can take away enjoying the present moment.  Just re-living the memory, we can get sucked into a vortex of unwanted emotion. To stop this we need to shift our thinking.  A paradigm shift is an important change that happens when the usual way of thinking about or doing something is replaced by a new or different way.  This podcast discusses love and compassion for self.