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How Your Work is Key to Gaining Your Child’s Respect
[Week 4 of 52 Weeks to a Better Relationship With Your Child]
Understanding how respect grows
Respect is something that has to be earned. It cannot be demanded. The deepest levels of respect are based on spending time observing a person’s choices and attitudes. The potential for respect is greatest with those who see us regularly face the demands of life. Many of such demands fall in the category of work.
Fortunately, the person watching doesn’t really need to be thinking very much at all about these things. Most of us don’t go around making lists in our heads about who we respect or don’t respect. Still, adults could pretty easily say who fits in these categories and why. Children might not be able to say why so easily, but they can develop a pretty good idea of who.
What work do children understand?
Children do not have to be very old to observe that much work is required in life. They subconsciously begin taking notes on how adults in their lives act about work. Are the adults responsible? Is there an attitude of concern for others? Do they complain? Do they avoid things that need to be done?
From a child’s perspective there are two main types of work:
Do your children think you resent them?
Work that provides care is what children notice first. They can tell if those caring for them do it begrudgingly or are always trying to find ways to get away. In short, they notice if they are viewed more as a burden or more as a precious opportunity.
Some parents have a hard time differentiating this about their children, too. Taking care of young children is particularly intensive. There is physical labor and mental challenge involved. It can be difficult to know when and how to get rest. In the midst of this, it is vital that the children are well aware they are cherished.
Children will quickly learn to respect a parent who has an overall cheerful, can-do attitude about keeping the household running. This doesn’t mean parents aren’t allowed to cry or be upset, but this should not be the norm when faced with daily responsibilities. Unless the mom, is pregnant. Heh heh. But even then, it is probably a different kind of crying. Not a selfish and mad at everyone for being alive crying, just easy waterworks.
What your children might tell your boss
It may take a child time and maturity to understand the specifics of work that provides resources, but they still understand that the parent views it as work. As such, a child subconsciously evaluates a parent’s response. Is the parent responsible and trustworthy about job issues? Is the employer or customer treated with reasonable respect? Does the parent try to work well, trying to do a good job?
The child will hear and see things. Even if a child picks up bad habits and excuses from a parent, a parent who is a lazy or manipulative employee won’t be respected by the child.<
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By Laura Blodgett[Week 4 of 52 Weeks to a Better Relationship With Your Child]
Understanding how respect grows
Respect is something that has to be earned. It cannot be demanded. The deepest levels of respect are based on spending time observing a person’s choices and attitudes. The potential for respect is greatest with those who see us regularly face the demands of life. Many of such demands fall in the category of work.
Fortunately, the person watching doesn’t really need to be thinking very much at all about these things. Most of us don’t go around making lists in our heads about who we respect or don’t respect. Still, adults could pretty easily say who fits in these categories and why. Children might not be able to say why so easily, but they can develop a pretty good idea of who.
What work do children understand?
Children do not have to be very old to observe that much work is required in life. They subconsciously begin taking notes on how adults in their lives act about work. Are the adults responsible? Is there an attitude of concern for others? Do they complain? Do they avoid things that need to be done?
From a child’s perspective there are two main types of work:
Do your children think you resent them?
Work that provides care is what children notice first. They can tell if those caring for them do it begrudgingly or are always trying to find ways to get away. In short, they notice if they are viewed more as a burden or more as a precious opportunity.
Some parents have a hard time differentiating this about their children, too. Taking care of young children is particularly intensive. There is physical labor and mental challenge involved. It can be difficult to know when and how to get rest. In the midst of this, it is vital that the children are well aware they are cherished.
Children will quickly learn to respect a parent who has an overall cheerful, can-do attitude about keeping the household running. This doesn’t mean parents aren’t allowed to cry or be upset, but this should not be the norm when faced with daily responsibilities. Unless the mom, is pregnant. Heh heh. But even then, it is probably a different kind of crying. Not a selfish and mad at everyone for being alive crying, just easy waterworks.
What your children might tell your boss
It may take a child time and maturity to understand the specifics of work that provides resources, but they still understand that the parent views it as work. As such, a child subconsciously evaluates a parent’s response. Is the parent responsible and trustworthy about job issues? Is the employer or customer treated with reasonable respect? Does the parent try to work well, trying to do a good job?
The child will hear and see things. Even if a child picks up bad habits and excuses from a parent, a parent who is a lazy or manipulative employee won’t be respected by the child.<