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The Next three agreements are born from the first agreement.

Don’t take anything personally!

Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally.This is easier said than done.  As humans we take everything personally.If we remember back to the 1st agreement… if I walk up to someone on the street and call them stupid that is on me, not them.If someone says the same to us and you take it personally it’s because you agree with what the person has said and as soon as you agree the poison goes through you and you are trapped in the dream of hell.What cases us to become trapped is called Personal Importance or taking it personally.This is the maximum expression of selfishness because we assume everything is about me.Even if someone ran up to you on the street and shot you that has nothing to do with you.  That is on them.  They don’t know you.  They are obviously dealing with some issues, but it has nothing to do with you.During our upbringing we learn to take everything personally.  Everything revolves around us. Me, me, me!Nothing anyone does if because of you.  It is always because of them.Everyone lives in their own dream.  They live in a completely different world.When we take something personally we assume they know what’s in our world.Even when a situation seems very personal and someone insults you directly, it has nothing to do with you.What they say, what they do, and the opinions they have are all based on their agreements.  Their point of view comes from their upbringing.Even if someone gives you their opinion… (that is all it is, their opinion) and say, “you look fat” Do Not Take It Personally.That person is obviously dealing with something themselves and they are trying to send you emotional poison.  If you take it personally then it becomes yours.Taking things personally makes you an easy target for these kinds of peopleHowever, if you don’t agree with it and do not take it personally then you become immune to this kind of garbage and the hell that comes with it.Immunity to poison and the hell it creates is the gift of this agreement.When you take things personally you will feel offended, and your natural reaction will be to defend yourself based on your beliefs.You make something big out of something so little because you have to be right and everyone else has to be wrong and so you start giving your opinions.Remember your opinions are from your personal dream and your agreements.  They have nothing to do with the other person, so stop trying to spread them.Say to yourself “It is not important what you think about me, and I don’t take what you think personally.”I don’t take it personally when someone says, “you’re the best” and I don’t take it personally when you say, “you’re the worst”.  I just know that when people are happy they tend to say nice things and when they are angry then tend to say mean things.  Neither are of my concern.I know what I am and that is all that matters to me!I don’t take it personally.  Whatever you think, whatever you feel, I know that is your problem and not mine.  It is the way you see the world.  It is not personal because you are dealing with yourself and not me.If someone’s words do truly hurt you it is not the words they have said to you.  It is because you have an unresolved wound that you need to work on.  Their words did not hurt you, what it stirred up inside you.Anyone’s opinions are based on their truths or agreements they have made.  Not yours, so if someone gets mad at you it is on them and has nothing to do with you.People get mad because they are afraid and dealing with fear.  If you are not afraid hate, jealousy and sadness slip away.If you live without fear there is no place for these emotions to build up and if you don’t let these emotions take root you will feel good.  All the time!Everything will make you happy and you will love everything around yo...