In this episode of Toy Talker’s Mail, I get real about a messy and painful situation that was sent in by a listener. A girl is dating a man with a child — but she can’t bring herself to like the baby. Not because the child is bad, but because she lost her own and now feels triggered, jealous, maybe even resentful.

I’m voicing my truth on this one: 💔 Can we really fault someone for grieving in an ugly way? 👶🏾 Is it fair to hold a baby emotionally hostage for pain it didn’t cause? 🧠 What do unhealed trauma, comparison, and suppressed grief really look like in a relationship? 💡 How do we separate pain from projection? 🧍🏾‍♀️ And what should someone do if they realize they’re resenting a child out of personal loss?

Let’s unpack this with honesty, empathy, and accountability.