Today’s episode turn a major turnaround — initially, I had intended to do some recommendations and shoutouts of BIPOC people for Black History Month, and then I was going to move on and talk about something “closer to home”.

Yeah, you heard that right. In the middle of a civil rights movement, my dumb ass had initially decided that BLACK HISTORY was not “close enough to home”. I was not going to discuss issues of race — this is because I am an ignorant, racist cis gendered white woman, and for some reason, I believed this gave me a pass on discussing BIPOC issues in regards to sexuality.

It does not.

I acknowledge that I am a work in progress, and accept that my intention does not excuse and is not relevant to any of my potentially hurtful behavior. I will inevitably spend years trying to reverse a lifetime of micro aggressions, white savior complex, and utter ignorance.

For this month of Unacceptable Behavior, I’m inviting BIPOC friends to take the reigns and help me navigate this fragile and critical conversation as an ignorant, racist white woman.

If you feel so inclined, please reach out to me in the DMs and let me know if you have resources, stories, or feel inclined to have a conversation with me (on or off the podcast) about your experiences.

I am here to listen, to learn, and to publically expose my own wrongdoing to normalize the incredible amount of unlearning white folks have to do.

BIPOC sex educator shoutouts for this episode: @evyan.whitney, @samanthasoloud, @mxcmorgan, @miss_cherlyn

BIPOC mid roll advertisement: @Funds4Caregivers

BIPOC reading rec: Killing the Black Body by Dorothy Roberts (@DorothyRoberts appears to be their insta but I cannot officially confirm this)