Have you ever played Two Truths and a Lie? If you haven’t, the rules are pretty simple: you state 3 facts about yourself and 1 has to be a lie while the other 2 facts must be true. Then, people have to try and figure out which fact is the lie.

It’s a common ice breaker game people play during employee retreats, summer camp, and the occasional birthday party. The things people choose to lie about are also fairly common: the existence of pets, how many siblings you have, a weird allergy, or whether or not you traveled to this cool place where a crazy thing happened to you (hint: that’s usually not the lie). But what probably isn’t so common is using your identity as part of the game. “I don’t speak Chinese” when people assume you do or “my parents are white” when people assume they’re not. Alia, one of the guests on today’s show, is one such people.

On this episode, I chat with Alia and her co-host Aimee from the Somewhere Between podcast where they too, talk with others about the concept of identity, and how our experiences as adoptees create ripple effects we feel our whole lives. Listen now.