I Choose The Bear Podcast

From fairy tales to dating culture, many women grow up believing their greatest goal is to be chosen by a man. But what if we’ve had it backwards?

In this episode of I Choose the Bear, I explore the surprising parallels between nature and human relationships, where, in many species, males are the ones trying to impress females and females are the ones making the choice. I unpack how culture has shifted many women from evaluating a partner to seeking his approval, and why that mindset can leave us overlooking the questions that matter most.

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Am I enough?” instead of “Is this relationship enough for me?” this episode is for you.

Because healthy love isn’t about convincing someone you’re worthy of being chosen…it’s about two people choosing each other.

Have you ever looked in the mirror after divorce and wondered, “Who am I?”

In this episode, I sit down with divorce coach Karin Nelson to talk about what happens when women lose themselves in marriage and how they begin finding themselves again.

We discuss people-pleasing, self-trust, healing, and the journey of rebuilding a life that reflects who you truly are.

If you’ve ever felt like you disappeared while trying to hold a relationship together, this conversation will remind you that it’s never too late to rediscover yourself.

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There are seasons in life that don’t feel like living…they feel like surviving.

Whether you’re still in an abusive relationship, navigating the aftermath of leaving, or carrying a sadness that feels heavier than words can describe, this episode is for you.

In this episode, I share my own experience, “I’m not suicidal, but I don’t want to be alive like this” I offer encouragement for the woman who isn’t sure she can take another step.

This is a reminder that healing doesn’t happen all at once. It happens one breath, one decision, and one day at a time.

Keep going.

62 million views.

A viral question.

And the truth behind why women chose the bear.

You don’t realize how hard it is to breathe…

until you finally can.

No more walking on eggshells.

No more bracing for someone’s mood.

No more shrinking to keep the peace.

Just quiet.

Just safety.

Just you.

You get your voice back.

You get your choices back.

You get you back.

This life exists for you too.

Have you ever fallen in love with potential?

You saw the good in him.

You made excuses for the parts that hurt.

You held onto potential… hoping one day it would become reality.

But love doesn’t turn someone into a good partner. It doesn’t create consistency, effort, or respect.

Love isn’t supposed to feel like something you have to manage.

You were never meant to fix him.

You are here to be loved well.

I was told recently, “You are thriving now.”

And if I’m honest… I didn’t know how to receive that. Because thriving, to me, sounded like peace.

Like rest. Like finally feeling okay.

And that’s not quite where I am.

In this episode, I share what led up to that moment ..from stress that physically impacted my heart…to sitting in a doctor’s office being told I’m “thriving” while still feeling like I’m walking through a very long, very dark tunnel.

We talk about what healing actually looks like after abuse; how your body keeps score…

how stress doesn’t just disappear when you leave… and how sometimes the biggest growth isn’t what you feel… but what others can see in you.

If you’re in that space where life is still hard…

but you know you’re not where you used to be…

This episode is for you.

Because maybe thriving doesn’t feel the way we expected it to.

And maybe that’s exactly where it begins.

You left. You moved on. So why does your body still react?

In this episode, we’re talking about the kind of trauma that doesn’t end when the relationship does. The kind that shows up in your breathing, your thoughts, your need to double-check everything…

This is about flashbacks that come out of nowhere. The silence that looks like zoning out.

And the reality that your body remembers what your mind has tried to move on from.

Because sometimes, you cut the tree down…

but the roots are still there.

What happens when your voice slowly disappears in a relationship? In this episode, I ask a series of questions that many women recognize but rarely say out loud. You might realize you weren’t the only one living it.

You might find yourself answering “yes” more than you expected.

This episode is for the men.

Not to accuse. Not to shame. But to invite understanding.

In this episode, I talk about the everyday calculations women make for their safety, the phrase “it’s not all men, but it’s all women,” and what many good men may not realize about the world women experience.

And for the men who are loving women who have been hurt before, the ones showing patience, kindness, and consistency…this episode is also a thank you.

Because safe love has the power to rewrite stories that women never chose.