for years i felt misunderstood and constantly seeking someone who could reflect back who i was because i couldn't see it myself.

i looked for completion in romantic partners, then friends, asking them to make me feel whole. but the real issue wasn't that they didn't understand me. it was that i didn't understand myself.

this musing is about the difference between understanding and acceptance, what we actually need from relationships, and how learning to see myself whole changed everything.

maybe you're seeking completion in your relationships, too.

maybe you're asking others to see you before you've learned to see yourself.

maybe you're confusing understanding with acceptance and wondering why you still feel unseen.

then this episode is for you ❤︎⁠

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