🔹Ven Pomnyun’s Dharma Q&A

Ven. Pomnyun's Answer to " I Don’t Want to Live InCanada Just Because of My Husband." Selection from a Dharma Q&A session at UBC (Oct. 3, 2017)

🔹Question: I have a really personal question to ask you. I was born, educated, and worked in Korea. I came here to study temporarily and I fell in love with a guy, who’s Canadian and was born and educated here. Eventually we got married without any approvals from our families. It’s been already 19 years. Now they are super supportive, of course, my family. I really did my best to keep my family happy and healthy. But as I’m getting older, I feel like ‘Oh my god, what’s in our retirement?”, what’s in our picture?’ kind of desires. Of course I want to go back to Korea when I get older, because when I was young, I was happier. So these days I got to conclusion that ‘Oh, maybe I can live half and half.// I can go to Korea for a few months and then come here a few months. But my second thought is ‘Am I selfish or what?’ As you previously said today, I have my own confusion with my own value system. Is it a right thing? Since I was educated in Korea, I still have some Korean system that family should stay together, especially husband and wife. Even though our relationship is happy and healthy, is it really happy and healthy if I stay here just for him? So I’m stuck at this stage and I don’t know what to do.

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