as you get older you see the young one and remember you were once there too and sooner you are getting to maybe bring yours into the world but then you think about the struggles you grow with and you wouldn't want to bring the same child up in the same conditions as you road maybe a struggle so if your child growth is going to become a struggle too in your second phase of life so you want to break as much of the curses you were brought up in so that you can have your stereotypically family life you dream about