In this episode, Meredith dives into a vintage 90s dating book, Getting to I Do, gifted by her aunt—only to realize quickly that she definitely does not agree with most of it. What starts as a fun, nostalgic read about “masculine vs. feminine energy” turns into a deeper conversation about outdated gender roles, internalized misogyny, and why so much dating advice (old and new) remains shockingly similar.

Meredith breaks down:

✨ The book’s entire premise: using “feminine energy” to strategically secure a husband

✨ Why dating trends swing like a cultural pendulum—from purity culture to hookup culture and back

✨ How the same manipulative dating advice from the 90s is resurfacing today through TikTok creators

✨ The “four people in every relationship” energy model

✨ The 90-day rule, its origins, and why it still shows up in modern dating conversations

✨ Why so much of the book blames women, polices behavior, and teaches them to contort their personality for men

✨ The problematic idea of “keeping” a man

✨ Why the right person won’t require strategy, games, manipulation, or 90-day timelines

✨ A wild story example the authors use—and why Meredith completely rejects its message

✨ The truth about red flags, timing, chemistry, and not “fighting to keep” someone who already walked away

Throughout the episode, Meredith explores the tension between classic relationship advice and modern, empowered dating. She also questions why women are still being told to shape-shift, shrink, and strategize to get a man—rather than focusing on compatibility, timing, and authenticity.

This one is funny, thoughtful, slightly unhinged in moments, and full of hot takes.

💬 Join the conversation: Do you think masculine/feminine energy dating frameworks are outdated—or still relevant today?