Her name is the “Shoulda’-Finger-Pointer,” and she comes around to spoil your peace of mind, especially after any kind of social event. Let me explain. The “shoulda’-Finger-Pointer” is the little voice inside that robs us of peace and joy when she makes us shake our fingers at ourselves and say, “You SHOULD have done more.” Or, “You SHOULD have done it differently.” Or even something as frivolous as “You SHOULD have known better than to wear that dress tonight.”