What makes me a better dad? I love to refer to this as understanding as “what stirs my affections”. I always begin this question with: “What stirs my affections for God?” - Why? Because those things in turn stir my affections for life, for my wife, for my kids, for work, for being me at a higher level. With understanding the things that stir me also comes the understanding of the things that don’t. It’s just as important for me to do the things that do stir me as it is to not do the things that don’t .