Dating on High Alert

I Was Ready… And Then Everything Stopped


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Why does one plan hijack your whole day?

Why can’t you start anything else?

Why does a cancellation send you straight into freeze?

In this episode, I break down the AuDHD nervous-system pattern of anticipation, mobilisation, and shutdown — through my own lived experience. We talk about:

• why your body prepares hours before your mind
 • why waiting feels like pressure or pain
 • why time becomes distorted
 • why you can’t “just pivot”
 • and why freeze is a physiological response, not a flaw

This one goes deep into sensitivity, grief, emotional wiring, and the way our bodies remember old safety patterns.

If it hits home, you can reach out through Dear Ilja or download the free AuDHD Survival Guide in the show notes.

Until next spiral. 💛

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For more raw, honest takes on dating, ADHD, trauma, and being a woman on high alert — head to iljaabbattista.co.uk

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Dating on High AlertBy Ilja Abbattista