Sign up to save your podcasts
Or
Share I Wasn’t Addicted to You - I Was Addicted to the Feeling
Share to email
Share to Facebook
Share to X
Share to email
Share to Facebook
Share to X
Or
I Wasn’t Addicted to You - I Was Addicted to the Feeling
Send us a text
This episode isn’t about a person.
It’s about the feeling your nervous system learned to depend on, and how that same pattern shows up at the beginning of relationships, at the end of relationships, and in the way we hyper-focus on passions, projects and ideas.
Inside this episode, we explore:
- why early connection can feel like oxygen
- why endings feel like withdrawal, even when you chose to leave
- why your body doesn’t “get the memo” when your mind has moved on
- how hyper-focus can shift from people to purpose
- why time blindness can feel like emotional absence in relationships
- why fixation on a person feels so different from immersion in a passion
- and what this pattern is actually about beneath the surface
This is a conversation about dopamine, regulation, attachment, grief, intensity, shame, drive, and the deep misunderstanding many AuDHD women carry about their own wiring.
It’s not about being “too much.”
It’s about a nervous system that learned to survive through intensity before it ever learned how to feel safe in stillness.
If you’ve ever:
- fallen hard at the beginning
- struggled to regulate at the end
- or disappeared into an idea while a relationship waited quietly in the background…
This episode will meet you with clarity, not judgment.
No shame.
No fixing.
Just truth.
💛 DEAR ILJA + FREE AuDHD SURVIVAL GUIDE
If this episode stirred something in you and you’d like a safe, private space to talk it through:
Dear Ilja is open.
You can send me a voice note about anything that came up for you, dating, attachment, spirals, hyper-focus, heartbreak, shame, confusion, desire, grief… all of it.
No judgment.
No pressure.
No performing.
Just human support from someone who understands the wiring from the inside.
The link to Dear Ilja is here.
You can also download my free AuDHD Survival Guide, gentle, practical support for real life, not perfect routines.
That link is in the description too.
You don’t need to rush.
You don’t need to fix yourself.
You don’t need to carry this alone anymore.
Until next spiral. 💛
🎧 Subscribe, share, and spiral with me.
For more raw, honest takes on dating, ADHD, trauma, and being a woman on high alert — head to iljaabbattista.co.uk
Let’s keep this messy, magical conversation going:
📩 Get updates: https://iljaabbattista.co.uk/truth-led-podcast-sign-up/
🎙️ Submit a guest pitch or topic: https://iljaabbattista.co.uk/%f0%9f%8e%99%ef%b8%8f-submit-a-guest-pitch-or-podcast-topic/
📬 Contact me: [email protected]
📱 Follow along on Instagram: @ilja.abbattista
Unmask. Rebuild. Thrive.
View all episodes
By Ilja AbbattistaSend us a text
This episode isn’t about a person.
It’s about the feeling your nervous system learned to depend on, and how that same pattern shows up at the beginning of relationships, at the end of relationships, and in the way we hyper-focus on passions, projects and ideas.
Inside this episode, we explore:
- why early connection can feel like oxygen
- why endings feel like withdrawal, even when you chose to leave
- why your body doesn’t “get the memo” when your mind has moved on
- how hyper-focus can shift from people to purpose
- why time blindness can feel like emotional absence in relationships
- why fixation on a person feels so different from immersion in a passion
- and what this pattern is actually about beneath the surface
This is a conversation about dopamine, regulation, attachment, grief, intensity, shame, drive, and the deep misunderstanding many AuDHD women carry about their own wiring.
It’s not about being “too much.”
It’s about a nervous system that learned to survive through intensity before it ever learned how to feel safe in stillness.
If you’ve ever:
- fallen hard at the beginning
- struggled to regulate at the end
- or disappeared into an idea while a relationship waited quietly in the background…
This episode will meet you with clarity, not judgment.
No shame.
No fixing.
Just truth.
💛 DEAR ILJA + FREE AuDHD SURVIVAL GUIDE
If this episode stirred something in you and you’d like a safe, private space to talk it through:
Dear Ilja is open.
You can send me a voice note about anything that came up for you, dating, attachment, spirals, hyper-focus, heartbreak, shame, confusion, desire, grief… all of it.
No judgment.
No pressure.
No performing.
Just human support from someone who understands the wiring from the inside.
The link to Dear Ilja is here.
You can also download my free AuDHD Survival Guide, gentle, practical support for real life, not perfect routines.
That link is in the description too.
You don’t need to rush.
You don’t need to fix yourself.
You don’t need to carry this alone anymore.
Until next spiral. 💛
🎧 Subscribe, share, and spiral with me.
For more raw, honest takes on dating, ADHD, trauma, and being a woman on high alert — head to iljaabbattista.co.uk
Let’s keep this messy, magical conversation going:
📩 Get updates: https://iljaabbattista.co.uk/truth-led-podcast-sign-up/
🎙️ Submit a guest pitch or topic: https://iljaabbattista.co.uk/%f0%9f%8e%99%ef%b8%8f-submit-a-guest-pitch-or-podcast-topic/
📬 Contact me: [email protected]
📱 Follow along on Instagram: @ilja.abbattista
Unmask. Rebuild. Thrive.