Couples often avoid sex because their sex life has become dissatisfying or conflictual.  If talking about it is uncomfortable (and for most it is, at least a bit), avoidance can become the path of least resistance. Lack of time is often a convenient excuse. Talking about sexual concerns in a caring way and planning together for sexual revitalization can be the cure for avoidance.

Most couples can work through their sexual frustrations and miscommunications simply by learning to communicate about what is important to them and what works for them and what feels intolerable to them and why

In this episode of Sex after Divorce, Juliana Neiman provides a "statement check -list" to help us to recognize our sexual preferences.  Once we have a better understanding of our sexual desires, the goal is to share our needs with our new partner in a healthy way.