Continuing with questions raised for me by controversies in the national Women's March, I turn to The Coming of Lilith by feminist theologian Judith Plaskow. I follow her invitation to wrestle with how the evil we see in the world is in us, not something we can just project onto "others." I ask how a mindset of interconnection helps us through impasse, & I discuss psychic processes like narcissism, self-shaming, and rigid defense mechanisms that show up in this work of changing the world and ourselves.