We're starting a new relationship series "If I had only ___." talking about Identity. So often dysfunction in relationships stems from trying to place one's identity in the partner instead of who God has called them to be as an individual. 

"And don't be wishing you were someplace else or with someone else. Where you are right now is God's place for you. Live and obey and love and believe right there. God, not your marital status, defines your life."  1 Cor. 7:17 (MSG)